finding it so hard to stop
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Join Date: Apr 2011
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finding it so hard to stop
I'm finding it so hard to even get past day 1. I feel useless and weak that wine has such a hold over me. Its never that much but its very regular and i know in my heart and soul that my life would be so much better and happier sober. Could today be a new beginning? I really hope so.
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Hi Marria
Welcome
I remember not being able to get past a day too.
I think support makes a huge difference, and you'll find a lot of that here.
Feel free to drop into our 'Class of April' thread - it's the thread for folks who have stopped this month, or are trying to
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Welcome
I remember not being able to get past a day too.
I think support makes a huge difference, and you'll find a lot of that here.
Feel free to drop into our 'Class of April' thread - it's the thread for folks who have stopped this month, or are trying to
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
Posts: 7,910
Welcome Marria - sounds like you're one of "us." I used to quit in the mornings but take it back in the afternoon. We know what it's like.
Have you ever gotten help for detox? If you can get through the first few days it will help break the cycle.
I hope you keep reading/posting - you don't have to live this way......:ghug3
Have you ever gotten help for detox? If you can get through the first few days it will help break the cycle.
I hope you keep reading/posting - you don't have to live this way......:ghug3
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Colorado Springs, Colorado
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Hey!
Hi Marria,
Congratulations on taking the addiction on full bore. If you are making it through most of a day you have me beat. I couldn't make it through the first hour awake. I'd have a shot of scotch in my coffee first thing and for the next four cups one in each of those. "Just to take the edge off." Then I'd switch to beer once I had my buzz on.
When I realized the fix I was in, and got to where you are now, I'd resolve that "today is the day," and skip the shot in my first cup resolving to not drink that day. That tasted so good that I rewarded myself by deciding to have a shot in my second cup. Funny how fast I could talk myself out of quitting.
Someone already asked if you have any external and local support. Here is a great place to start. I was not strong enough to do it on my own and was a bit leery of withdrawals. I checked myself into a hospital detox program knowing that if I could get through detox I would never touch another drop again.
And I haven't for almost 7 months. It is permanent. I already drank enough in my lifetime for any ten so called "normal" social drinkers in their lifetimes.
But like all of us, I started in despair of having the willpower, and in desperation reached out like you are doing now too. If you are desperate enough, and have had enough, you will say ENOUGH!
And whatever it takes, you will find you have enough.
Congratulations on taking the addiction on full bore. If you are making it through most of a day you have me beat. I couldn't make it through the first hour awake. I'd have a shot of scotch in my coffee first thing and for the next four cups one in each of those. "Just to take the edge off." Then I'd switch to beer once I had my buzz on.
When I realized the fix I was in, and got to where you are now, I'd resolve that "today is the day," and skip the shot in my first cup resolving to not drink that day. That tasted so good that I rewarded myself by deciding to have a shot in my second cup. Funny how fast I could talk myself out of quitting.
Someone already asked if you have any external and local support. Here is a great place to start. I was not strong enough to do it on my own and was a bit leery of withdrawals. I checked myself into a hospital detox program knowing that if I could get through detox I would never touch another drop again.
And I haven't for almost 7 months. It is permanent. I already drank enough in my lifetime for any ten so called "normal" social drinkers in their lifetimes.
But like all of us, I started in despair of having the willpower, and in desperation reached out like you are doing now too. If you are desperate enough, and have had enough, you will say ENOUGH!
And whatever it takes, you will find you have enough.
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Join Date: Apr 2011
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Hi Marria, Welcome! I felt just like you and knew that it was time to be set free from the power of alcohol.
I am also trying to give up wine. I got tired of the foggy head, headaches, tired feeling the day after drinking, and all the money I was wasting on booze. The biggest most obivious help is not to keep it in the house (and curse every liquor store you drive by!) I have recently noticed just how many liquor stores there are within a few mile radius. The poison is so readily available, it's sickening.
Wishing you the best as you begin your journey. Another thing that has helped me is to read books about addiction. Personal stories with victory over abuse are so inspiring to me. I drink my evening tea and go to bed with an encouraging book to keep my mind on the prize.
I am also trying to give up wine. I got tired of the foggy head, headaches, tired feeling the day after drinking, and all the money I was wasting on booze. The biggest most obivious help is not to keep it in the house (and curse every liquor store you drive by!) I have recently noticed just how many liquor stores there are within a few mile radius. The poison is so readily available, it's sickening.
Wishing you the best as you begin your journey. Another thing that has helped me is to read books about addiction. Personal stories with victory over abuse are so inspiring to me. I drink my evening tea and go to bed with an encouraging book to keep my mind on the prize.
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Join Date: Apr 2011
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The Support feels great
I'm about to go to work, the start of a new day and I want to say thank you so much for all the words of encouragement sent my way.Reading your replies is such a lovely way to begin my week. I feel quite emotional actually because I realise how alone I have felt with this struggle. I'm hugely reluctant to confide in friends and family as I want to quit for good and then let people know I'm not drinking anymore without going into explainations. Hopefully with online support I can manage to do it this time!
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Join Date: Feb 2011
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Marria, you're never alone here. Keep posting, keep reading. Stay open to & appreciate the experiences of the long-time sober. Seek & accept the support of those of us new to the bright & shiny world of recovery.
Wishing you a peaceful, sober day x
Wishing you a peaceful, sober day x
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: New York
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Welcome Marria!
Happy you joined our community. You can stop the hold wine has over you. The answer is within yourself. Took me a while to figure that out. The alcohol is what's making you feel useless and weak. It likes for you to stay that way!
Your much better than any bottle of wine. I hope you make today your new beginning! Keep reading here, posting and maybe some outside support? Life is good and you can turn yours around. Start loving yourself and your soul will heal.
Best Wishes To You
Happy you joined our community. You can stop the hold wine has over you. The answer is within yourself. Took me a while to figure that out. The alcohol is what's making you feel useless and weak. It likes for you to stay that way!
Your much better than any bottle of wine. I hope you make today your new beginning! Keep reading here, posting and maybe some outside support? Life is good and you can turn yours around. Start loving yourself and your soul will heal.
Best Wishes To You
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Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Texas
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Finding support is what got me through the first 40 days or so. I could not have done that without the outpatient treatment program I went to for 6 weeks as well as AA meetings to fill in the weekend gap. At outpatient I had wonderful support from others struggling with addiction. Plus, you are definitely held accountable for staying sober. Your group members are counting on you to stay sober to help them stay sober. AA is like that, too.
All the other times I tried to quit, and there were so very very many times, I wanted to do it alone. Without admitting my problems to others and without asking for help. In the end I could not count on myself to be strong enough. I would lose whatever resolve I had within hours or days. Once I'd stepped out and told someone I needed help, I really couldn't go back, you know?
All the other times I tried to quit, and there were so very very many times, I wanted to do it alone. Without admitting my problems to others and without asking for help. In the end I could not count on myself to be strong enough. I would lose whatever resolve I had within hours or days. Once I'd stepped out and told someone I needed help, I really couldn't go back, you know?
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