A wee change in perspective
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A wee change in perspective
Hello all,
I went to visit with my brother yesterday and he asked me how I was doing with not drinking? I told him I'm trying, but it's a big change, so it's taking me awhile to get the hang of it. My brother has lost his eyesight over the past ten years and what he said to me yesterday really made me stop and think about my struggle with alcohol in comparison to his struggle with blindness.
He said, "D, one of the hardest things I've had to get used to is that I have sit every time I need to take a wee." "Why's that?" I asked, and he told me his wife told him not to stand anymore while taking a whiz because she's tired of cleaning up the puddles. I almost fell over laughing, and he was cracking up too. It was just one of those classic moments.
During my drive home last night, I reflected on his condition and struggle and how he has gracefully accepted his lot in life, and has made adjustments in every aspect of his daily routine because he can't see. Yet, he still laughs about his condition, then gets on with what he has to do.
After the long drive, I got home, stood proud and took a whiz, then decided if he can accept his lot in life so gracefully, then I'll try to do the same. it was then that I checked for puddles, and there weren't any.
Thanks for letting me share.
D
I went to visit with my brother yesterday and he asked me how I was doing with not drinking? I told him I'm trying, but it's a big change, so it's taking me awhile to get the hang of it. My brother has lost his eyesight over the past ten years and what he said to me yesterday really made me stop and think about my struggle with alcohol in comparison to his struggle with blindness.
He said, "D, one of the hardest things I've had to get used to is that I have sit every time I need to take a wee." "Why's that?" I asked, and he told me his wife told him not to stand anymore while taking a whiz because she's tired of cleaning up the puddles. I almost fell over laughing, and he was cracking up too. It was just one of those classic moments.
During my drive home last night, I reflected on his condition and struggle and how he has gracefully accepted his lot in life, and has made adjustments in every aspect of his daily routine because he can't see. Yet, he still laughs about his condition, then gets on with what he has to do.
After the long drive, I got home, stood proud and took a whiz, then decided if he can accept his lot in life so gracefully, then I'll try to do the same. it was then that I checked for puddles, and there weren't any.
Thanks for letting me share.
D
humbling share from your Bro , acceptence is the key to most things in life , and doing what one can to adjust , nice share there Fire... made me think as well huggles Endzy
I look at the "why can't I drink like other people....whaaaaa" lament in a similar light. Ain't no big deal when put in perspective. I should have sat dow to **** when I drank because I was usually so drunk I couldn't hit the toilet!
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My best friend was once very athletic but is now confined to a wheelchair due to a painful arthritic condition. Still she maintains a very positive attitude to life. I do think we need to look at our own problems and address them on their own terms, but I think of her when I start getting bogged in negativity, self-centredness or feeling unmotivated. A grateful attitude also works wonders. Thanks for the share
One of the more grateful, happy, spiritual guys I know is a member of my homegroup. He's been in a wheelchair for around 35 years. Put himself in it after a motorcycle wreck in his late teens. Went on to become a bitter, angry, hateful, nasty alcoholic, drug user, full-time dealer. He actually got good at dealing and made a ton of money....
Then, like we ALL do, he lost everything and like so many of us did, found himself in AA.
It's unreal the crap this guy has to deal with on a typical day yet he manages to do it with a smile, is always looking out for ppl HE can help, never complains about his situation, and seems to be permanently happy. He's a real inspiration. Yer lucky D, that God put ppl like that in your life for you to draw inspiration from.
Then, like we ALL do, he lost everything and like so many of us did, found himself in AA.
It's unreal the crap this guy has to deal with on a typical day yet he manages to do it with a smile, is always looking out for ppl HE can help, never complains about his situation, and seems to be permanently happy. He's a real inspiration. Yer lucky D, that God put ppl like that in your life for you to draw inspiration from.
great post. really helps to put things in perspective. of all the diseases and afflictions in this world that i could have, i'm pretty daggone lucky that mine is one that is 100% treatable, and the treatment and success of said treatment is 100% up to me.
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