Ultrarunner

...and feeling much better. I'm sleeping instead of passing out; things seem clearer and more in focus; the time with my baby son is just as tiring but of real quality.

One thing that has dawned on me is that I need to be ruthless with my friends. Most of my friendships have been forged in drink which means they are with other drinkers and tend to focus on bars. I'm not in a place where I can take myself off to bars and drink soft drinks. It may be that I never am. And I can't risk the peer pressure: I've always been susceptible to that. So it looks like I'll be cutting myself off from some good people.

Last time I was sober, for a year, I made running and exercise a focal point and joined a running club. Time to show my face there again (just as soon as I can run 6 miles without stopping). Sure some of them like a beer after the club run but that's not the main purpose of the meeting and it will be far easier to resist the temptation when hot, sweaty, out of breath and in need of home, food and a shower.

Hope y'all are having a great and sober weekend!!

Dee74

Glad you're feeling better

Most of my latter friendships were formed in bars and around alcohol too UR - I had to change my life, and sadly none of those guys felt comfortable enough to stay around a teetotaler...I've been able to re initiate some older friendships tho - and of course make new friends - so it's all good - I'm sure you'll do the same ultrarunner

D

least

Congrats on your sober week! Staying sober does take some changes but it's so worth it. Stay true to yourself.

Anna

Good for you!

And, it's good that you recognize what could be a potential problem, and are finding a way to work it out. I had to make some big changes in early recovery too, and it really is worth it.

IO Storm

Dear Ultra...

Congrats on one week sober. Making changes for continued sobriety are so worth the effort. My very to you...and, welcome to SR!

ineedtochange

Congrats ultrarunner!

I need to start running again too. I know that it will be a great step forward for me. It is amazing how great you feel after a good run.

Ultrarunner

Thanks and best of luck getting out there again! I'm just back from one now and the funny thing is it felt better than my last run before I fell off the wagon. Even though I've visibly gained weight since then. Strange thing the human body.

Spiritual Seeker

You know that people, places and things all must change.
Besides a runner's club, something you can do ea. day is go to a meeting.
Find one you can run to and from.

CarolD

Keep moving forward...Well Done...

caribbean

Good for you for recognizing where you are and not trying to push yourself into a situation where you are at risk. I know how hard it is to give up friendships with people who just don't fit into your sober life. The only consolation is that there will be other "good people" coming into your life at some point, who won't have any unhealthy effects on you!

Just don't use not being able to run that far yet as an excuse for not going -- go and ask for their support while you are training. (I know for me, I am always waiting for X, Y, or Z to be "perfect" before I do A, B, or C -- which sometimes means those things never happen....! Hopefully not true for you.)

Congratulations on your sober week! Way to go!

Mcribb

I had been going out to bars and bars and bars and not drinking, forcing myself to go and try to have a good time, my sponser then told me that "it's ok to feel bad" going to a bar is like getting into the boxing ring with your nemisis and not being able to throw a punch. If my friends want to hang out they know where to find me.