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AA not for you?
May I suggest you buy an amazing book called:
Love Is Letting Go Of Fear by Gerald Jampolsky.
It is one of the most remarkable books I have ever read & life changing.
It's been my experience, pain is the touchstone of all growth.
What am I really willing to do about my life?
I will keep this thread going & ask you post your findings.
What do you have to lose? A few bucks and a bit of your time?
What if your life did change........
Love Is Letting Go Of Fear by Gerald Jampolsky.
It is one of the most remarkable books I have ever read & life changing.
It's been my experience, pain is the touchstone of all growth.
What am I really willing to do about my life?
I will keep this thread going & ask you post your findings.
What do you have to lose? A few bucks and a bit of your time?
What if your life did change........
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I have not read the book, but I agree with you that personal growth is usually preceded by pain. It has been the case for me, in my recovery. The intensity of my pain when I finally stopped drinking, allowed me to begin to turn my life around. It allowed me to start seeing myself and my life in a different way.
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So I read up to the lessons last night (Amazon is amazing and got it here in seconds...) and it sort of is exactly the thing I want to be working on right now.
So I am pretty reliant on my rational mind. I always have been. And a couple months ago, I realized the extent to which I was always judging people inside my head and how these judgments were creating barriers and putting distance between me and people and me and the world. In a way it is a very subtle thing because it is not like the judgments themselves are extremely obvious all the time, like that person sucks because x, but more like, that person is really into raw food, I think eating raw is silly, cooking seems like a natural thing to me, and so on goes the tape in my head. What I realized though was how much distance this actually puts between me and other people. This book speaks to that. It uses different language I think than I have used for myself but that is helpful. I think I might try the lessons because I do want to deprogram myself from thinking about the world in this way. When I am more accepting. When instead of judging, I can accept the difference, it makes my life more pleasant, life more open.
When I went to Hawaii, at the beginning of my trip I felt my judging mind sort of pulling away from me and it scared me. It scared me because I am so used to it being there and in a way it protects me. On my vacation for some reason, my judgments fell aside briefly and I felt more open and free. I want that back. Interestingly I never felt like posting here when I felt that way. I had nothing to say. I would read and I just couldn't post a response. Everyone had such valid things to say. I want that attitude back. So I am going to try those lessons. It is difficult though to change that part of you especially when you are such a logical, rational, intellectual person. But more and more I am realizing the detriment to relying on that part of me too much.
So I am pretty reliant on my rational mind. I always have been. And a couple months ago, I realized the extent to which I was always judging people inside my head and how these judgments were creating barriers and putting distance between me and people and me and the world. In a way it is a very subtle thing because it is not like the judgments themselves are extremely obvious all the time, like that person sucks because x, but more like, that person is really into raw food, I think eating raw is silly, cooking seems like a natural thing to me, and so on goes the tape in my head. What I realized though was how much distance this actually puts between me and other people. This book speaks to that. It uses different language I think than I have used for myself but that is helpful. I think I might try the lessons because I do want to deprogram myself from thinking about the world in this way. When I am more accepting. When instead of judging, I can accept the difference, it makes my life more pleasant, life more open.
When I went to Hawaii, at the beginning of my trip I felt my judging mind sort of pulling away from me and it scared me. It scared me because I am so used to it being there and in a way it protects me. On my vacation for some reason, my judgments fell aside briefly and I felt more open and free. I want that back. Interestingly I never felt like posting here when I felt that way. I had nothing to say. I would read and I just couldn't post a response. Everyone had such valid things to say. I want that attitude back. So I am going to try those lessons. It is difficult though to change that part of you especially when you are such a logical, rational, intellectual person. But more and more I am realizing the detriment to relying on that part of me too much.
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sf girl, great to hear for you!
love this: and so on goes the tape in my head.......OMG yes.
What really helps me re: this or any other "old character" traits is to say:
IN THE PAST I________
You have so many great points in your post, hope you will provide more insight!
Later I'll post one of my favorites in the book, thanks again!
love this: and so on goes the tape in my head.......OMG yes.
What really helps me re: this or any other "old character" traits is to say:
IN THE PAST I________
You have so many great points in your post, hope you will provide more insight!
Later I'll post one of my favorites in the book, thanks again!
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from pg 18 re-playing the past
"We all manufacture our own dust & static which serve only to interfere with seeing, hearing and experiencing Love within ourselves & others. This self-imposed interference keeps us stuck in an old belief system that we use repeatedly, even though it doesn't get us what we want."
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I need help with this today........getting caught up in old character!
Again...lol..........
"We all manufacture our own dust & static which serve only to interfere with seeing, hearing and experiencing Love within ourselves & others. This self-imposed interference keeps us stuck in an old belief system that we use repeatedly, even though it doesn't get us what we want."
Again...lol..........
"We all manufacture our own dust & static which serve only to interfere with seeing, hearing and experiencing Love within ourselves & others. This self-imposed interference keeps us stuck in an old belief system that we use repeatedly, even though it doesn't get us what we want."
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1 day, though we don't always agree on everything (who does?!!) I value your opinion and recovery. I have this on my list of recovery books to order. A bit short on cash at the moment, as I've been out of work for 6 weeks, but when I've got an extra couple bucks to spare it will be on my first Amazon order. Loving myself is something I have no clue how to do. Hopefully it can offer some insight. Thanks for the recomendation.
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