feeling the urge
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Posts: 4,150
Glad you came here seeme. I am here for you as well as the rest of the SR'ers. Just say no. You know you can do it. I know it is hard but you have to resist that call. Do anything else. Cookies are good.
Member
Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 1,947
Here is a little something that I developed myself, to help me when I have an urge or when I not feeling good emotionally:
Emergency ACTION
STOP…practice telling the “stinking thinking” to STOP telling. Notice the meanness and self hate that is taking place. And then practice changing your thoughts. Say to yourself that “I am a good person, I am loveable and loving, I am a good parent, or people like me”.
HALT…use this acronym to help you take a quick inventory of what is going on with you…
Looking to see if you are
Hungry
Angry
Lonely
Tired
Practice taking ACTION when you are feeling good, bad, or in between. Practice using a new acronym:
Help another
Add good to the world
Love, Listen, Learn
Trust the PROCESS
Recovery Toolkit
Re-Commit yourself — to your Recovery.
Easy Does It — Urges are normal; don't over-react.
Interrupt negative thoughts — Change them, turn them around, create gratitude.
Play out the tape — If you use imagine the pain that will come.
Credit yourself — for your attainment and maintenance of your recovery.
Honesty — follow your heart.
Listening — Listen, listen, listen.
Information — retrain your brain; stimulate it with things related to recovery.
Open mindedness — Don’t reject ideas without at least considering them.
Willingness — be willing to try new thinking and new behavior.
Meetings — be with people who can relate and support.
Sharing — do it honestly.
People — engage with others every day.
Set easily obtainable goals — success breeds more success.
One day at a time — Stay in today.
Take Action — no matter how small it seems.
Do it now — procrastination is an anti-tool.
Nutrition — improve it any way you can.
Exercise — however little, even just moving around.
Meditate — set aside a quiet time once or twice each day.
Your “addict self” is a part of you. Notice it more and more. Get to know it.
PRACTICE makes BETTER
Emergency ACTION
STOP…practice telling the “stinking thinking” to STOP telling. Notice the meanness and self hate that is taking place. And then practice changing your thoughts. Say to yourself that “I am a good person, I am loveable and loving, I am a good parent, or people like me”.
HALT…use this acronym to help you take a quick inventory of what is going on with you…
Looking to see if you are
Hungry
Angry
Lonely
Tired
Practice taking ACTION when you are feeling good, bad, or in between. Practice using a new acronym:
Help another
Add good to the world
Love, Listen, Learn
Trust the PROCESS
Recovery Toolkit
Re-Commit yourself — to your Recovery.
Easy Does It — Urges are normal; don't over-react.
Interrupt negative thoughts — Change them, turn them around, create gratitude.
Play out the tape — If you use imagine the pain that will come.
Credit yourself — for your attainment and maintenance of your recovery.
Honesty — follow your heart.
Listening — Listen, listen, listen.
Information — retrain your brain; stimulate it with things related to recovery.
Open mindedness — Don’t reject ideas without at least considering them.
Willingness — be willing to try new thinking and new behavior.
Meetings — be with people who can relate and support.
Sharing — do it honestly.
People — engage with others every day.
Set easily obtainable goals — success breeds more success.
One day at a time — Stay in today.
Take Action — no matter how small it seems.
Do it now — procrastination is an anti-tool.
Nutrition — improve it any way you can.
Exercise — however little, even just moving around.
Meditate — set aside a quiet time once or twice each day.
Your “addict self” is a part of you. Notice it more and more. Get to know it.
PRACTICE makes BETTER
Member
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: uk
Posts: 2,548
Play the tape to the end my friend...
" Just this once" becomes a catalogue of misery and pain.....a hell hole that is very difficult to get out of again.
It like a naff film.........the trailer is fantasic....but it always always has a crap ending.........the same as your drinking...bad ending after bad ending.
Go drink some sugary fizzy pop.....it may be the sugar your craving...
Youve come this far......AND...whipping this craving will make the next one weaker..
You are in my prayers and god be with you my friend............trucker
" Just this once" becomes a catalogue of misery and pain.....a hell hole that is very difficult to get out of again.
It like a naff film.........the trailer is fantasic....but it always always has a crap ending.........the same as your drinking...bad ending after bad ending.
Go drink some sugary fizzy pop.....it may be the sugar your craving...
Youve come this far......AND...whipping this craving will make the next one weaker..
You are in my prayers and god be with you my friend............trucker
Member
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Glitzville
Posts: 334
I'm glad you posted. It's just a little urge, a voice in your head calling. What really helped me on many occasions was to just tell the voice that I'd give in to it tomorrow, then find anything else to occupy my mind for that day, that hour. For whatever reason it seemed to appease the voice and I'd get through until the next day or time it reared its ugly head.
It does get better.
Keep posting if it helps. We're here to listen.
Big hug,
Donna
It does get better.
Keep posting if it helps. We're here to listen.
Big hug,
Donna
Looking For Myself...Sober
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Where the heart is
Posts: 10,209
Well you came and didnt stay it looks like.
I hope you didnt drink.
And if your ghosting. I hope you stay close.
Read your posts from after you drank and relive how crappy it feels.
We are here for you.
I hope you didnt drink.
And if your ghosting. I hope you stay close.
Read your posts from after you drank and relive how crappy it feels.
We are here for you.
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,445
some good posts here, seemethrough 
just cos we feel it, doesn't mean we have to act on it - keep busy, distract yourself, post here as many times as you need to
it's tough - but it's not impossible. Hang in there
D
just cos we feel it, doesn't mean we have to act on it - keep busy, distract yourself, post here as many times as you need to
it's tough - but it's not impossible. Hang in there
D
Member
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Oregon
Posts: 212
Seemethrough- good for you for coming here- I too am feeling the urge- I am telling myself it is just a thought, just a feeling. It is powerless unless I act on the urge. I am also going to go for a walk and see if some brisk air might clear my head.
good luck to you!
good luck to you!
It's time to change!
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: lake tahoe
Posts: 1,025
Hello Seemethrough!!!!
I feel ya, friend! The obsession can be so overwhelming that we can taste it!
As said previously, play that tape through.... it's just not worth the self-hatred (not to mention the colorful array of other emotions that are along that line) we're gonna feel afterwards! Sabotaging is what we do cuz we feel we "don't deserve recovery".... conscious or subconsciously! That's a lie! We do!
We haven't been living, we've been dying! We don't know "how" to do life on life's terms when we start getting sober! But, others who have gone before us and have been where you, we have been before - DO know how to do life and are actually truly "living" without the bottle as their crutch. Support is essential, my dear! An HP is essential to help in relieving the obsession of alcohol from us. These are my opinions only as many don't agree with me on that. That's okay! Please understand... I'm not saying "Thus says Nicki so therefore...."! Just suggestions and my experience.
Wish I could come over right now and go for a walk with you or something!!! My prayers are with you friend and PM me anytime you want!
:praying
I feel ya, friend! The obsession can be so overwhelming that we can taste it!
As said previously, play that tape through.... it's just not worth the self-hatred (not to mention the colorful array of other emotions that are along that line) we're gonna feel afterwards! Sabotaging is what we do cuz we feel we "don't deserve recovery".... conscious or subconsciously! That's a lie! We do!
We haven't been living, we've been dying! We don't know "how" to do life on life's terms when we start getting sober! But, others who have gone before us and have been where you, we have been before - DO know how to do life and are actually truly "living" without the bottle as their crutch. Support is essential, my dear! An HP is essential to help in relieving the obsession of alcohol from us. These are my opinions only as many don't agree with me on that. That's okay! Please understand... I'm not saying "Thus says Nicki so therefore...."! Just suggestions and my experience.
Wish I could come over right now and go for a walk with you or something!!! My prayers are with you friend and PM me anytime you want!
:praying
Member
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Canada
Posts: 367
Yeah, the urges..I'm getting them to...
That's when the 'just for today', turns into, 'just for this hour', 'just for this minute'.
I'm over mine for the day.
I had that Devil whispering in my ear today to, and I kicked his butt good!
You are the stronger one Seemethrough!
That's when the 'just for today', turns into, 'just for this hour', 'just for this minute'.
I'm over mine for the day.
I had that Devil whispering in my ear today to, and I kicked his butt good!
You are the stronger one Seemethrough!
Member
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 99
I hope you didn't give in and take that drink. You'll feel so much better in the morning.
Remember that nasty thirst and you are to hungover to get up and get a drink of water, crystal lite or any other thirst quencher.
Remember that nasty thirst and you are to hungover to get up and get a drink of water, crystal lite or any other thirst quencher.
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