Rella927

Hey RO RO

Ughhh Mom driving me nuts....maybe it is because I'm in recovery?

I know she is in pain with regards to my brother however she is
coming in here and telling me that i have no idea the pain she is feeling
which ok on the level of not having a child no I do not...however...
she is right now IMHO not strong enough to handle what is going on with
my brother....she knew I was going to go see him and yet keeps asking me
about him blah blah blah ....

Rella927

and while asking....it is only creating more chaos and pain for her...why do that? And I have tried to end the convo but she then is getting angry at me!

I came here for a peaceful little mini vacation...not to get wrapped up in this drama
and have her upset with me! I have not done anything and we have been having a great
time up until now!

Rowan

Oh hon I'm sorry to hear that. Your brother lives in Florida also? Does she not see him, is that why she is asking you for information? I would feel caught in the middle myself if that were happening, and it makes sense to me that her behaviour is driving you nuts.

When do you go home??

Ananda

sorry it's rough rella....

Mom's seem to be that way sometimes...especially as they get older

Maybe she'll settle back down?

Rella927

Yup he is here and like about 5 minutes down the road....

She no longer see's him because he is still drinking...

I go home on Tuesday morning-I just want to enjoy the time
with her and not have to deal with the brother issue....

It was so hard to see him this morning and sit and talk with him
for almost 2 hours while he was drinking vodka like it was water...
he has lost so much weight and just looks terrible...

I understand that my mom is not going to change and I know how to
handle her most of the time but this IMHO she is not being fair to me...
She was ok with me going to see him as it was my choice...she should have
just left it at that...but now she is feeding into getting all kinds of information
and then she is now upset and then next she is going to **** off my step-dad...

Help

Rella927

Nans ...my mom has been this way ever since I was a little girl...recovery has taught me
with the help of my sister how to handle her most of the time. Just sometimes I get
overwhelmed which is not very often anymore .....she also use to drink and was in
a mental hospital when I was younger...so a bit of issues she I know will never take care of but that is ok....

Rella927

Oh and Ro Ro just cause

Ananda

we'll always be here for you when you need friends Rella

:ghug

Rowan

If you can set a clear boundary with her Rell, and just say, "Ma, I don't want to talk about this, I don't feel comfortable."

And let her get pissed off. She'll live. Don't take it on, babe.

Rella927

Good Idea Ro Ro thank you for that reminder that I can say that now!

I lost my brain for a minute....Stoney must have been draggin me by my hair again

Ok I'm going to go try to sleep!

Rowan

Good night sweetie talk to you tomorrow prolly.

Ananda

good nite row and rella!

I'm going to sleep well and have happy dreams....

Rowan

Nighters, Nands!

Dee74

great advice Ro Ro

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Rowan

Thanks Deedums

Okay it's nearly 2 bells. Time for bedlam!

Dee74

nite sweetie

D

Iloow

Hey bottom dwellers. I am not complaining today.

Hope you all had a good 4th July and sorry to hear about your problems rella.

The second weekend is not as hard as the first.

Ananda

morning woolie! every weekend gets better until you get use to being sober...then they get tricky cause expectations move in!


yipeee bottoms! another day!

Dee74

Didn't they have a big hit with 'Pandi'?

OK...going to bed

night
D

Ananda

nite sweety...now that i found this photo thing i think i may get out of contro

:ghug3