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Just another newbie
Hi another new guy here and I'm sure I'm in the same boat as many... I'm just 23 years old
I've never been much of a drinker in my teens, but once I turned 21 it was almost every weekend, social type thing. I feel like I've been off the hook and had too much luck to do me good. I've driven drunk numerous amounts of times, not just short distance but many times more than 50+ miles while drunk. It's also led me to lots of drug abuse as in coke, acid, XTC, molly, and of course weed. There are other things I've done because of my drinking that I'm too embarrassed to admit or tell anyone.
Nearly every single friend or family member I have drinks. My best friend is an alcoholic with a dui, and my mom just got a dui. I feel like I have no will to control myself when I start to drink, I can't just have a few. My 16 year old brother is in rehab for selling drugs and multiple felonies. I get the shakes more than I used to and get really anxious around others. I've told others that I plan to quit drinking, but I only get some support from my father who was abusive and has been sober for a few years.
I know I need to stop but my will power is almost zero in these situations. I'm going to go try to an AA meeting soon with my brother and hope that helps.
Sorry for the long post. Any suggestions or comments would be great, thanks
I've never been much of a drinker in my teens, but once I turned 21 it was almost every weekend, social type thing. I feel like I've been off the hook and had too much luck to do me good. I've driven drunk numerous amounts of times, not just short distance but many times more than 50+ miles while drunk. It's also led me to lots of drug abuse as in coke, acid, XTC, molly, and of course weed. There are other things I've done because of my drinking that I'm too embarrassed to admit or tell anyone.
Nearly every single friend or family member I have drinks. My best friend is an alcoholic with a dui, and my mom just got a dui. I feel like I have no will to control myself when I start to drink, I can't just have a few. My 16 year old brother is in rehab for selling drugs and multiple felonies. I get the shakes more than I used to and get really anxious around others. I've told others that I plan to quit drinking, but I only get some support from my father who was abusive and has been sober for a few years.
I know I need to stop but my will power is almost zero in these situations. I'm going to go try to an AA meeting soon with my brother and hope that helps.
Sorry for the long post. Any suggestions or comments would be great, thanks
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Originally Posted by djfreestyle 
I know I need to stop but my will power is almost zero in these situations. I'm going to go try to an AA meeting soon with my brother and hope that helps.
My will power was zero once alcohol was added.
Going to meetings soon? Sooner is better and it will help if you have a desire to find answers.
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AA meetings are a good idea. You may also have to stop hanging around with your old drinking buddies, at least for a while. Medical supervision during detox is also a good idea. You can stop drinking/using, but you have to want to quit more than anything else. Keep coming back here. This is a safe and supportive community.:ghug2
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i say welcome, as i welcome myself.
this is my first post, im sure of many, and my first day here.
i am 22 and although the drug use never took over, the alcohol surely did. many of my friends do not understand why it is that i have chosen not to drink, as many of them have similar problems, but of course are in denial. it is difficult to remain in situations with the same people as you used to drink with, but it is possible with strength.
i have been sober for 17 days and dear god, i wont lie and say it is easy. it is day by day, for sure. but it is possible.
best of luck and i wish you the best with gaining support from friends and family.
this is my first post, im sure of many, and my first day here.
i am 22 and although the drug use never took over, the alcohol surely did. many of my friends do not understand why it is that i have chosen not to drink, as many of them have similar problems, but of course are in denial. it is difficult to remain in situations with the same people as you used to drink with, but it is possible with strength.
i have been sober for 17 days and dear god, i wont lie and say it is easy. it is day by day, for sure. but it is possible.
best of luck and i wish you the best with gaining support from friends and family.
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I will be try to go to a meeting this Saturday at noon. I don't want this to be just all talk after a horrible weekend.
I don't know if I need to write it down somewhere or what, anything to get me to that meeting.
Biggest thing I'm afraid of is losing many of my friends over this, I can only think of one person I hang out with that doesn't drink...
I don't know if I need to write it down somewhere or what, anything to get me to that meeting.
Biggest thing I'm afraid of is losing many of my friends over this, I can only think of one person I hang out with that doesn't drink...
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I'd go now. Why put it off ?
My first meeting was less than 24 hours after my last drink.
This might sound strange, but my personal belief is the worse you feel at your first meeting, the better your chances.
I felt like death
My first meeting was less than 24 hours after my last drink.
This might sound strange, but my personal belief is the worse you feel at your first meeting, the better your chances.
I felt like death
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Hi Dj,
I'm glad you found us and that you are seeking help.
You need to do this for yourself because things will get worse if you don't stop drinking. It could be that you will lose some friends because of the changes in your life. Often, there are hard choices to make in recovery.
Keep reading and posting and let us know how you're doing.
I'm glad you found us and that you are seeking help.
You need to do this for yourself because things will get worse if you don't stop drinking. It could be that you will lose some friends because of the changes in your life. Often, there are hard choices to make in recovery.
Keep reading and posting and let us know how you're doing.
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Originally Posted by djfreestyle
I get the shakes more than I used to and get really anxious around others.
Get to that meeting, get to 90 meetings in 90 days, no drinking, that's a start. Go to 2 a day when you can. Go like your life depends on it. Stay busy. Stay away from your old stomping grounds. Get rid of those shakes and anxiety. Best wishes.
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