Cannot Stop Binge Drinking
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 357
Hi Jamsil; You're not alone. We're all here because we share the same struggle. I find the support that I get here to be a big help right now in my sobriety. I am only on day 4 (again) and I found this site on day 1. Everyones' support has helped me stay focused on getting another day of sobriety. Good for you for sticking around!
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Fredericksburg, Va.
Posts: 9,730
Jamsil I was 12 when I had my first drink, the first thing I wanted when I was drinking that first drink was another one! When I had the second one my thoughts were on the third, yes I know where you are coming from.
The hardest thing for me to learn was it was not the 5th drink nor the 10th one that got me drunk, it was that first drink!!!!!
I drank for 40 years, in the beginning it was a blast, I had a lot of fun and was lucky enough not to get into much trouble. I spent years drinking just like you have described, over the years it went from only weekends to a few days during the week and weekends, to every day! At around the 30 year point I would decide to "Control" my drinking or quit! I tried this for 5 years until finally drinking was no longer a choice for me, I had to drink every day to feel normal and to keep bad things from happening to me!!!
The last 5 years of my drinking were miserable, I drank when I did not want to drink! I was developing problems on the home front due to my drinking and I had no control over my drinking.
After 40 years of drinking and 10 years of trying to stop drinking my way I finally surrendered! Alcohol had beaten me, it owned me!!!! I had a moment of clarity, I saw that if I did not find a way to quit drinking in less then a year everything important in my life would be gone................... except the bottle................ and a slow alcoholic death!
I was lost and had no idea what to do, I knew my way did not work so I called my insurance companies drug & alcohol abuse hotline, they lined me up with a specialist, I told him the whole truth about my drinking, he told me I needed to be medically detoxed.
In detox they told me that if I wanted a chance to stay sober I needed to go to at least 90 AA meeting in 90 days and get a sponsor!
I went to over 90 AA meeting in 90 days and get a sponsor, in AA they told me that if I wanted a chance to stay sober I needed to work the steps with my sponsor.
I worked the steps with my sponsor, today I am free, free of the need to drink & free of self! I am happier then I have been in over 30 years.
Will AA help you? Well if one wants to stop drinking I can tell you it sure will not hurt! It saved my life, I am sure things will be easier for you because you are wiser then I was, I was 52 when I decided I wanted to learn how to live life on lifes terms and not alcohols!
AA for most recovered alcoholics was the last house on the block of recovery.
The hardest thing for me to learn was it was not the 5th drink nor the 10th one that got me drunk, it was that first drink!!!!!
I drank for 40 years, in the beginning it was a blast, I had a lot of fun and was lucky enough not to get into much trouble. I spent years drinking just like you have described, over the years it went from only weekends to a few days during the week and weekends, to every day! At around the 30 year point I would decide to "Control" my drinking or quit! I tried this for 5 years until finally drinking was no longer a choice for me, I had to drink every day to feel normal and to keep bad things from happening to me!!!
The last 5 years of my drinking were miserable, I drank when I did not want to drink! I was developing problems on the home front due to my drinking and I had no control over my drinking.
After 40 years of drinking and 10 years of trying to stop drinking my way I finally surrendered! Alcohol had beaten me, it owned me!!!! I had a moment of clarity, I saw that if I did not find a way to quit drinking in less then a year everything important in my life would be gone................... except the bottle................ and a slow alcoholic death!
I was lost and had no idea what to do, I knew my way did not work so I called my insurance companies drug & alcohol abuse hotline, they lined me up with a specialist, I told him the whole truth about my drinking, he told me I needed to be medically detoxed.
In detox they told me that if I wanted a chance to stay sober I needed to go to at least 90 AA meeting in 90 days and get a sponsor!
I went to over 90 AA meeting in 90 days and get a sponsor, in AA they told me that if I wanted a chance to stay sober I needed to work the steps with my sponsor.
I worked the steps with my sponsor, today I am free, free of the need to drink & free of self! I am happier then I have been in over 30 years.
Will AA help you? Well if one wants to stop drinking I can tell you it sure will not hurt! It saved my life, I am sure things will be easier for you because you are wiser then I was, I was 52 when I decided I wanted to learn how to live life on lifes terms and not alcohols!
AA for most recovered alcoholics was the last house on the block of recovery.
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Central California
Posts: 246
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Hi Jamsil, I have the same problem you have. Once I start drinking I can't stop until I pass out. The key for me is not to take that first drink. I pray every morning and say the Serenity Prayer as many times a day as necessary. I believe AA will help you; they have helped me tremendouly. I remember when I first started AA I heard a man say "Sometimes the only thing standing between me and that first drink is my HP" I didn't understand what he meant then, but I sure do now. GH 
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: united states
Posts: 3
Jasmil,
I'm right there with you and all the others. I'm also just getting started and plan on using this and every method possible to stay sober. I'm ready to remember my life and enjoy everything about it. Understandably, I have a long road ahead of me and look forward to talking with everyone on here.
Talk soon,
Nick
I'm right there with you and all the others. I'm also just getting started and plan on using this and every method possible to stay sober. I'm ready to remember my life and enjoy everything about it. Understandably, I have a long road ahead of me and look forward to talking with everyone on here.
Talk soon,
Nick
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Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: tempe arizona
Posts: 2
Hi.... I read your post and it was almost like reading something i had wrote myself... I have went thru the same thing. Ive tried to moderate, control, or limit my drinking, and it just doesnt work... I could tell you some stories and what drinking has caused in my life. If your wanting to share, give me a reply. I started drinking at around 13, and I am now almost 33. I still battle this addiction. Its only been since saturday since my last drink, so not even a week. but its a start... take it day by day, and let the temptation of "its the weekend" give you reason to drink...thats when i did most of my bingeing because i would be good during the week then friday after work i would start drinking and stay drunk till sunday afternoon, sobering up and suffering a hangover and start work monday morning like a normal person... Its a powerful and cunning addiction. You got to know you are stronger than the disease, and even tho you are powerless over alcohol you can overcome it with strength, will power, and preseverence!!!
Originally Posted by Jamsil 
Hello,
My problem with alcohol is that I cannot stop once I start. If I am out, I drink to get drunk and drink quite a bit. This usually happens every time I go out and I'm so very tired of it. I don't know how to control myself and I get so depressed about everything the next day. I want to stop binge drinking but I can't.
I do not drink every day and I do not ever get an urge to drink during the week. It's just when the weekends roll around and I'm set to go out. It's sad that I cannot control myself and have to quit drinking completely as I think this is the only way to stop. I don't know what else to do. If anyone else has a similar problem such as mine, I would really like to hear from you. Should I see a doctor or perhaps AA? Am I someone who would benefit from AA? Why can't I stop?
My problem with alcohol is that I cannot stop once I start. If I am out, I drink to get drunk and drink quite a bit. This usually happens every time I go out and I'm so very tired of it. I don't know how to control myself and I get so depressed about everything the next day. I want to stop binge drinking but I can't.
I do not drink every day and I do not ever get an urge to drink during the week. It's just when the weekends roll around and I'm set to go out. It's sad that I cannot control myself and have to quit drinking completely as I think this is the only way to stop. I don't know what else to do. If anyone else has a similar problem such as mine, I would really like to hear from you. Should I see a doctor or perhaps AA? Am I someone who would benefit from AA? Why can't I stop?
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Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: tempe arizona
Posts: 2
Hi.... I read your post and it was almost like reading something i had wrote myself... I have went thru the same thing. Ive tried to moderate, control, or limit my drinking, and it just doesnt work... I could tell you some stories and what drinking has caused in my life. If your wanting to share, give me a reply. I started drinking at around 13, and I am now almost 33. I still battle this addiction. Its only been since saturday since my last drink, so not even a week. but its a start... take it day by day, and DONT let the temptation of "its the weekend" give you reason to drink...thats when i did most of my bingeing because i would be good during the week then friday after work i would start drinking and stay drunk till sunday afternoon, sobering up and suffering a hangover and start work monday morning like a normal person... Its a powerful and cunning addiction. You got to know you are stronger than the disease, and even tho you are powerless over alcohol you can overcome it with strength, will power, and preseverence!!!
Originally Posted by Jamsil
Hello,
My problem with alcohol is that I cannot stop once I start. If I am out, I drink to get drunk and drink quite a bit. This usually happens every time I go out and I'm so very tired of it. I don't know how to control myself and I get so depressed about everything the next day. I want to stop binge drinking but I can't.
I do not drink every day and I do not ever get an urge to drink during the week. It's just when the weekends roll around and I'm set to go out. It's sad that I cannot control myself and have to quit drinking completely as I think this is the only way to stop. I don't know what else to do. If anyone else has a similar problem such as mine, I would really like to hear from you. Should I see a doctor or perhaps AA? Am I someone who would benefit from AA? Why can't I stop?
My problem with alcohol is that I cannot stop once I start. If I am out, I drink to get drunk and drink quite a bit. This usually happens every time I go out and I'm so very tired of it. I don't know how to control myself and I get so depressed about everything the next day. I want to stop binge drinking but I can't.
I do not drink every day and I do not ever get an urge to drink during the week. It's just when the weekends roll around and I'm set to go out. It's sad that I cannot control myself and have to quit drinking completely as I think this is the only way to stop. I don't know what else to do. If anyone else has a similar problem such as mine, I would really like to hear from you. Should I see a doctor or perhaps AA? Am I someone who would benefit from AA? Why can't I stop?
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Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: massachusetts
Posts: 2,216
welcome Jamsil!
I too (like all the rest of us) can appreciate your frustration. For me, I have to break my impulsivity (think through the drink...thanks, Sonny). I KNOW that if I drink, I WILL get drunk, have an awful night's sleep, agonize if I have pushed my husband over the edge "this time", squirm over what I said/did (I blackout), feel physically ill the next day and suffer self-hatred, remorse and shame. All for what? A half hour at most of a buzz b4 the compulsion sets in? IF I can step in like this, b4 I take that first sip, I have a chance to beat the beast this time. It hasn't always worked for me (obviously...I'm here), but it's one of my "tools". Best of luck. We're all in this together!:ghug3
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Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 1
hello, i am a bad binge drinker, im 27. I can go about 5 days without a drink, but then i feel really restless and nothing will stop me from going to the pub and getting smashed. I have lived in a pub since i was 8, because my parents owned 2 pubs. My dad died from liver cancer, he was a friday night binge drinker. (every fri nite) I have lost my licence twice, been thrown in jail overnight for abusing two police officers, and have spewed up in every toilet in every job i have ever had. My whole family drinks to excess, including uncles, cousins etc. My friends drink to excess. I am just surrounded by binge drinkers. I am constantly having days off because i dont want to go to work wreaking of alcohol. My relationship is suffering, my boyfriend is a good guy and is probably the only person i hang with who doesnt binge. I am on day one of giving up for a year, i just want to break the pattern, it will be very very hard. But i am just so happy when i dont drink for a while, mentally and physically happy and i save money. But when i am hungover i get so very depressed and cant mentally handle anything. Good to hear all of your stories.
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: England
Posts: 572
Originally Posted by mxchaos
I had to dry out in detox first then fill my drinking time with healthy activities. It's not easy but well worth it.
Well done though M. It's great to hear a short but sweet tale of success.
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: Edmonton Alberta
Posts: 3
Hello, I came across this thread by googling how to stop binge drinking on the weekends. I thought the replies were so helpful that I just signed up here.
I am on day one of my sobriety and I am full of mixed emotions. I was known as a party girl in high school, and I guess I never really got out of that. I drank with alcoholic men for over ten years, so I can pound back like no other. I am now 32, I have a child, and I am sick of feeling the need to drink on the weekends. I tried not to, but I always fail.
Another reason why I want to quit is because I feel like my body cannot take it anymore. I have night sweats when I drink and feel achy and depressed for a couple of days later. As much as I try to sober up for my health, once the weekend comes, I couldn't care less.
Would love some words of wisdom or anything at this point
I am on day one of my sobriety and I am full of mixed emotions. I was known as a party girl in high school, and I guess I never really got out of that. I drank with alcoholic men for over ten years, so I can pound back like no other. I am now 32, I have a child, and I am sick of feeling the need to drink on the weekends. I tried not to, but I always fail.
Another reason why I want to quit is because I feel like my body cannot take it anymore. I have night sweats when I drink and feel achy and depressed for a couple of days later. As much as I try to sober up for my health, once the weekend comes, I couldn't care less.
Would love some words of wisdom or anything at this point
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Wis
Posts: 172
It is sad to say but from reading these posts I doubt you are going to stop. You just want some magic that makes you not have those last 2-3 drinks on the weekend. No magic here. That same thing inside that cannot make you stop on the weekends will probably talk you into drinking during the week, the during the days on weekends. You get my point. Before it gets to that remember the good people here and come back.
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: MD
Posts: 15,967
Although the thread began in 2008, it's relevant today. Drinkers haven't changed in hundreds of years. Whether we are periodic (binge) drinkers or daily drinkers after a hard day's work, or the morning/all day drinker.
It's the first drink that gets to you.
Somehow, you have to stay away from that first one. Change your routine on the weekend. I used to drink only on weekends, then the weekends began to lengthen until I was drinking daily. Today, you have a choice, whether you think you do or not. I'd get to an AA meeting or read about AVRT and start putting something into practice.
I wish you well,
It's the first drink that gets to you.
Somehow, you have to stay away from that first one. Change your routine on the weekend. I used to drink only on weekends, then the weekends began to lengthen until I was drinking daily. Today, you have a choice, whether you think you do or not. I'd get to an AA meeting or read about AVRT and start putting something into practice.
I wish you well,
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: MPLS, MN
Posts: 164
Kinda sad seeing that the OP only had 5 posts and the last three were only 3 months after this thread and they all seem like things got worse, which is obvious because alcoholism is progressive. Who knows though. Maybe they found sobriety and this was just a stop on their path.
Maybe this is a bit of stalking on my part but sometimes I find a poster who's addiction is intriguing to me and I'll root through their past to see how they ended up where they are at today and what they went through and what they had to do to find peace. But sometimes it goes the other way and I see people who are struggling and in the midst of their struggle they vanish. This place, for better or for worse, helps me with my recovery. Knowing we are not alone and not all of us make it, but sometimes we do. I wonder if I ever got the stalker treatment?
(p.s. I don't do this all the time and I won't use it against you like I see some do, not that I disagree with that, it's just not my style. I'm just curious about others addiction/recovery)
Maybe this is a bit of stalking on my part but sometimes I find a poster who's addiction is intriguing to me and I'll root through their past to see how they ended up where they are at today and what they went through and what they had to do to find peace. But sometimes it goes the other way and I see people who are struggling and in the midst of their struggle they vanish. This place, for better or for worse, helps me with my recovery. Knowing we are not alone and not all of us make it, but sometimes we do. I wonder if I ever got the stalker treatment?
(p.s. I don't do this all the time and I won't use it against you like I see some do, not that I disagree with that, it's just not my style. I'm just curious about others addiction/recovery)
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