Jomey

Hi yall - I just have to share this.... earlier this week at work, my boss really upset and insulted me...when I was drinking (even if I was "sober" at the moment) I would have flown off the handle, walked off the job, etc. etc. This time, I was actually able to keep my mouth closed long enough to get my work done, and come home and share the situation with my husband, and make an action plan for how to tell my boss how I felt and how I would like to change the situation for the positive. And, I am even reminding myself that I will need to LISTEN to her responses, not just be formulating my next sentence while she is talking. I am hoping to address the situation tomorrow, and tonight, while I was kind of reviewing my strategy with my husband again (this is a whole other skill that i have to relearn- negotiating without fighting), I realized that I can't remember the last time I approached an issue this honestly, this directly, and with this much self-confidence. Not that I am necessarily right, but that I have the right to address this.

I am bowled over with gratitude for yet another gift that has been given to me in sobriety, and I want to thank you all for helping me and sharing my journey.

Thanks for everything, guys. Hugs, Jomey

Impurrfect

(((Jomey))))

Aren't these gifts great?

I don't always handle challenges like this as well as you did, but I'm getting a lot better. Every time we think something through and don't just react like we used to, we get a little better at it.

You did good!!

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

gypsytears

Thanks for that post Jomey. I like reading about triumph's in sobriety and that certainly is one !

Jomey

Oh Gypsy, if you only knew! My big ole hillbilly mouth is legendary in these parts, so "triumph" is an excellent word for this moment in my sober life! I hope this new "skill" is here to stay!

Thanks to you, also, Amy for the encouragement!

Jomey

gypsytears

I'll bet if you practice it enough it'll be ingrained in the new you Jomey . Good for you!

CarolD

Anna

That's great Jomey!

Sometimes it is just so great to stand back and see how far we've come!

Anodyne

That's great to hear
It's amazing how thinking and temper are changed and more clear
When sober-sober.

I hope your job situation works out well in the end.

Jomey

I really hope I don't lose my job over this, because I love it, but I am trusting my HP that what is meant to be is meant to be and part of my recovery is no more temper tantrums and no more passive-aggressive behaviour, so wish me luck tomorrow! Thanks for the support, everyone! J

Dee74

big ole hillbilly mouth


love ya
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Anna

Ya know Jomey, that was a biggie for me too. I used to lose my temper or cry when something like that happened. And I always ended up feeling worse and getting nowhere. It was a huge deal for me the first time I could calmly confront a co-worker and speak my mind and feel good about it afterwards. It's not easy, but you can get through this and end up feeling good about yourself and your boundaries.

Jomey

You described what I hope to achieve very clearly, Anna, thanks for saying what I couldn't. Whatever happens with the job happens, but I want to calmly speak my mind, and feel good about myself and my integrity, no matter what.

Thanks everyone!