very new... 12 hours and counting
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: CT
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very new... 12 hours and counting
Hi all,
I've come to the realisation that my drinking has to stop. I havent even been sober 24 hours yet as i find it extremely difficult to resist temptation, especially as my current situation is very stressful, although i know my drinking is making it worse.
I get bored during the day, as i am currently searching for a job and even now, at 11.44 i want a beer, i want a beer so bad that i feel like a fake even posting this!
When i look back, a lot of the things that have gone wrong in my life have been due to abuse of alcohol, i wont go into it as a lot of it is very private but im having difficulty stepping up and accepting that, believing that.
I am such a social outcast at the moment and drinking is the way i have met people because i dont have a job, i mean i have a gym membership (lightly used) but you hardly meet people there.
anyway, i've babbled, i hope i can get strength and do this.
I've come to the realisation that my drinking has to stop. I havent even been sober 24 hours yet as i find it extremely difficult to resist temptation, especially as my current situation is very stressful, although i know my drinking is making it worse.
I get bored during the day, as i am currently searching for a job and even now, at 11.44 i want a beer, i want a beer so bad that i feel like a fake even posting this!
When i look back, a lot of the things that have gone wrong in my life have been due to abuse of alcohol, i wont go into it as a lot of it is very private but im having difficulty stepping up and accepting that, believing that.
I am such a social outcast at the moment and drinking is the way i have met people because i dont have a job, i mean i have a gym membership (lightly used) but you hardly meet people there.
anyway, i've babbled, i hope i can get strength and do this.
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Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Southern Oregon
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hi littlecrumpet!!! (love the name!)
You can do this!! Just take it 1 minute at a time. Try to read as many posts as possible on here, it helps a ton. Keep typing too. We will help you get through today.......and tomorrow and from then on.. You will be so proud of yourself when the day is over, I promise you that.
Can i ask how much you drink? Reason I ask, is you might want to go see your doctor for help in detoxing.........
You can do this!! Just take it 1 minute at a time. Try to read as many posts as possible on here, it helps a ton. Keep typing too. We will help you get through today.......and tomorrow and from then on.. You will be so proud of yourself when the day is over, I promise you that.
Can i ask how much you drink? Reason I ask, is you might want to go see your doctor for help in detoxing.........
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: British Columbia
Posts: 98
Try this: rather than counting behind (i.e. "12 hours and counting"), count ahead: "I'll make it through this hour, this day, then I'll think about tomorrow when it happens."
" There are a lot of very helpful threads here about the issue of boredom. I was SOO where you are just 41 days ago. The boredom...more importantly, the FEAR of the boredom...subsides faster than you can imagine.
I suspect that most of us substance abusers were (or felt like) social outcasts at some point in our addictions. My former best friend -alcohol-turned out to be my worst enemy.
Congrats on your first day! It's a HUGE step and should be a source of pride for you. This place is full of caring, intelligent, experienced, forgiving, loving, people and you never have to feel completely alone again.
Welcome, and I hope you'll keep us apprised of your progress...
Earl
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Originally Posted by littlecrumpet 
I get bored during the day, as i am currently searching for a job and even now, at 11.44 i want a beer, i want a beer so bad that i feel like a fake even posting this!
I am such a social outcast at the moment and drinking is the way i have met people because i dont have a job, i mean i have a gym membership (lightly used) but you hardly meet people there.
anyway, i've babbled, i hope i can get strength and do this.
I am such a social outcast at the moment and drinking is the way i have met people because i dont have a job, i mean i have a gym membership (lightly used) but you hardly meet people there.
anyway, i've babbled, i hope i can get strength and do this.
I suspect that most of us substance abusers were (or felt like) social outcasts at some point in our addictions. My former best friend -alcohol-turned out to be my worst enemy.
Congrats on your first day! It's a HUGE step and should be a source of pride for you. This place is full of caring, intelligent, experienced, forgiving, loving, people and you never have to feel completely alone again.
Welcome, and I hope you'll keep us apprised of your progress...
Earl
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: CT
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thanks... i havent drunk ridiculous amounts, well to some it is, others it isnt.
Last night for example i had 5 bottles of beer, the night before however i had a bottle of wine.
so yes, it is a ridiculous amount actually.
Last night for example i had 5 bottles of beer, the night before however i had a bottle of wine.
so yes, it is a ridiculous amount actually.
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: USA
Posts: 15,540
welcome, it's nice to meet you! i have a 22 year old daughter 5 plus months sober. she is now working part-time.
boredom was a real trigger for her wanting to drink also. she makes a list every night before she goes to bed of a list of things she plans to accomplish/enjoy the following day. on those tough to stay sober days - she really sticks to her plan. aa meetings help keep her on a scheduale too, and keeps her busy. meetings also keep her accountable to and focused on recovery.
blessings, k
boredom was a real trigger for her wanting to drink also. she makes a list every night before she goes to bed of a list of things she plans to accomplish/enjoy the following day. on those tough to stay sober days - she really sticks to her plan. aa meetings help keep her on a scheduale too, and keeps her busy. meetings also keep her accountable to and focused on recovery.
blessings, k
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Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Nursing Home in Brick, New Jersey
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Welcome, Connecticut Crumpet! (I love crumpets...no matter where they originate.)
None of us got sober overnight...we've all been exactly where you are, and can totally empathize. No one understands an alcoholic like another alcoholic...doesn't matter how much, how often, how long each of us drank.
You are definitely in the right place to share your early recovery. Keep reading and posting...we are here for you.
None of us got sober overnight...we've all been exactly where you are, and can totally empathize. No one understands an alcoholic like another alcoholic...doesn't matter how much, how often, how long each of us drank.
You are definitely in the right place to share your early recovery. Keep reading and posting...we are here for you.
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Murrieta, Ca
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When i look back, a lot of the things that have gone wrong in my life have been due to abuse of alcohol, i wont go into it as a lot of it is very private but im having difficulty stepping up and accepting that, believing that.
I am such a social outcast at the moment and drinking is the way i have met people because i dont have a job, i mean i have a gym membership (lightly used) but you hardly meet people there.
You're in the right place
I can't speak for everyone, but I never really felt "part of".Welcome, and enjoy the ride !
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: AZ
Posts: 29
You're not a fake, you have made the first and hardest step, admitting to yourself that there is a problem. That is no small thing to do, trust me we all know!! Counting forward is a great idea, a list of things to do can help too, although if you get like I did it will probably be better to just not touch anything. We're with you and wishing you the best
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: CA
Posts: 115
boredom is a huge problem then after i drink the fatigue comes and there is no energy to do anything. I work part time and my husband sleeps at home so I can not be there during the day i never thought i would find myself suburban mommie sitting in a parking lot sneaking a beer at 12:00 when I had nothing else to do. Yuck that felt sickening just to say.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
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Hi and Welcome to SR!
AA is a great way to learn how to stay sober
and to meet new sober friends.
It works super for me!
Keep in focus and keep posting with us
We do understand.
AA is a great way to learn how to stay sober
and to meet new sober friends.
It works super for me!
Keep in focus and keep posting with us
We do understand.
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Bangor, maine
Posts: 78
Little crumpet,
You are not a fake, even if you are drinking while you are reading this. You start with the desire to cease drinking.
For many of us, we had to get to the point where drinking could very realisticaly be lethal.
However, if you think you have a problem, the odds are very good you do.
Post here whatever mood or disposition you are in.
You are not a fake, even if you are drinking while you are reading this. You start with the desire to cease drinking.
For many of us, we had to get to the point where drinking could very realisticaly be lethal.
However, if you think you have a problem, the odds are very good you do.
Post here whatever mood or disposition you are in.
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