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Class of October 2023 Support Thread Part Two

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Thanks Dee for the new thread
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Very upset.
Did NOT drink. But very upset/frustrated. Need advice.
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Let us know how we can help, Peke!
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Sorry you're upset, Peke. Well done not drinking.
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Hey
congrats on winning a prize xe suze sounds fabulous 😀👍

Liz that's great news you have reached out for help.

Ff congrats on your sober time and I hope you got help in the hospital.

Peke I'm sorry yiu are having a difficult time.

Stoll away. Very poor signal. I can read but whebui try and post the screen freezes. Had a good few days but exhausted. Teens are tiring 😂
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Glad you had a good day, dear RAL. s ❤️
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Help. I’m so sad.
Please help me.
Crying.
Last night we’ve been up since 4am. Driving back to MILs after long flight/day in car. It’s 8:30 pm husbands says to MIl “we’re hungry”
She says “I’m defrosting you lemon chicken. I made it four days okay. Warning, it’s not very good”.
I don’t eat meat, I’m vegan, MIL knows this. Husband says, “Peke doesn’t eat meat”. Mil: “you’re eating it, hahaha”.
Finally isay can we order something. It becomes this while thing. Then MIl says “I’m asking you spiral zucchini tomorrow night”. I don’t like zucchini. She says “what DO you eat??” Wth? Lots of ppl are vegan.
She knows I been vegan for years. Even got me a cookbook.
My best friend says to smile and just put up with it. It’s just one week.
I feel so invisible. Upset with husband.
I told you all. Can’t you see. No o he respects. Me. NO ONE RESPECTS ME
Oh. When MIL comes to my home, she has list of food that is blood buy : Greek yogurt, granola,special creamer. NYT i go out and buy and bring to her every morning.
Last night she found these veggie Pattie’s in freezer. “See she says? I knew you were coming?”
So sad hurt confused angry sick .

Writing it all out to you helps. But what isn’t coming thru is her voice, the exasperation “What DO you eat”.Jesus.
Tonight’s dinner is at an oyster bar. My husband doesn’t eat seafood. It’s also crazy expensive. But my BIL (MILs favorite) wants to go. So I timidly say “hubby doesn’t eat seafood, remember”. Then she picks another restaurant because “Peke doesn’t eat seafood”. That’s not tru+they had plently of salad at seafood place.

Omg. I feel so ganged up on. Husband is not himself. Raising voice here behind the closed bedroom door. Telling me I’m acting ridiculous. He doesn’t respect me so she doesn’t. There. I’ve said it.
No team here. Can’t stop crying. I told you all. I’m here saying it again. RAL he should stick up for me.
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Crying. He just came in and said “you don’t want [ moms spill zucchini] tonight, WHAT DO YOU WANT”. then reminds me I had a steak in September I did but it was cheat day and the death of my dads anniversary so I cheated.
Everyone upset with me,
Crying in bedroom in the dark. They’re out there doing theNYT crossword. Husband comes in and asked me do I want to join them. I say no bc crying
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Venus, RAL pls ease help. Anna
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Husband barking at me.
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Oh my gosh, that is so unfair.

I can't eat MOST things; I am a pain in the butt with food, and my husband is brilliant with me; he is my advocate.
Seems like Mr Peke is so stressed out by his very insensitive mother that he is taking it out on you....not fair. And not OK.

Love, I get that all the time: so, what DO you eat? And I get so upset, always.

If I were you, I would order in some groceries that you can eat and load up the fridge.
And if they are not going to care about your needs, I would be putting myself and Peke3 on the next plane out.

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Honestly peke you need to stick up for yourself too. You dont need her permission as to what u eat. order yourself a takeout.

If you've been married for 25 years you probably know how he is round his mother.

You're an adult. Yiu really dont need to put up with this rubbish. Only you are allowing yourself to continue putting up with it.

sorry I don't mean to sound harsh but please put yourself first xx
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Honestky I'd be leaving and checking into a hotel . You are not a child who has no control over their life or decisions
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Crying. Husband comes in tells me I’m “sick”. Because I’m crying.
I should never have come.
Or-
I should have said “yes” to eating chicken. That’s it. See? I told you.
This is the prime example.
MIl tok me grocery shopping today, I bought groceries. Paid for all of it too. As we shop she says “ground beef of sale, oh. But you don’t eat that”.
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Notice that RAL and I are on the same page, love—and you should most definitely not have said "yes" to eating chicken. s
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I live in rural area. Right now I’m in a very posh suburb of NY. MIL tells me she’s knows of “no vegans” but me.
Oh come on. Come on! Really? Here? I can understand in rural area where I live. But here?
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Really, who cares what she thinks; she is not someone who is exhibiting any sensitivity right now. s
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What suze said. Get the next plane home.

Please take this the right way but no one will stick up for you or respect you till you stick up for yourself know you are worthy and respect yourself
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