Class of August 2021 Support Thread Part Two
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Originally Posted by Erratic 
Morning x
start of day 6 and thanks to everyone who replied on my day 5.
This is the longest time i have been sober for many years so im actually chuffed with myself for a change. Even though its day 6 i had 4 days i think before i started the tablets. This is even longer than me being down at my daughters and gransons as they live 7hrs away from me and daughter doesnt like me drinking when visiting her and wont allow it in the house, so that has been mainly my dtox place to go lol. she said 2nd last time i was there that maybe she should charge me lol. This will be also my 2nd weekend sober. These tablets are making a big diffrence which i was a daily drinker and couldnt really string many days together, aswell as being part of this great forum x so i am totally grateful for everyone here
right thats early morning post done and i better get my second cup of tea before i get ready for work. I am on the long shift today instead of yesterday, so wont be logging in until later today.
congrats on all your sober time and hope u had good nights sleep.
have great day xx
start of day 6 and thanks to everyone who replied on my day 5.
This is the longest time i have been sober for many years so im actually chuffed with myself for a change. Even though its day 6 i had 4 days i think before i started the tablets. This is even longer than me being down at my daughters and gransons as they live 7hrs away from me and daughter doesnt like me drinking when visiting her and wont allow it in the house, so that has been mainly my dtox place to go lol. she said 2nd last time i was there that maybe she should charge me lol. This will be also my 2nd weekend sober. These tablets are making a big diffrence which i was a daily drinker and couldnt really string many days together, aswell as being part of this great forum x so i am totally grateful for everyone here
right thats early morning post done and i better get my second cup of tea before i get ready for work. I am on the long shift today instead of yesterday, so wont be logging in until later today.
congrats on all your sober time and hope u had good nights sleep.
have great day xx
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Join Date: May 2019
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Originally Posted by Lamb6179
I had the best nights sleep last night !! Today is three weeks for me being sober. I’m looking forward to a weekend without having a hangover. I hope everyone has a fantastic weekend.
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Originally Posted by Numblady
I’ve had a bad headache for a couple of days now. Felt like the worst hangover ever but without the drinking.
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Originally Posted by venuscat
I thought it was yesterday, sorry.....I keep thinking your date is Aug 6.
Congrats again on 3 weeks dear Lamb!!! ❤️
Congrats again on 3 weeks dear Lamb!!! ❤️
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Originally Posted by katlin
Congratulations! We're about on the same sobriety schedule. Sleeping well is helping my attitude tremendously and waking up clear headed is such a morning boost.
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Originally Posted by venuscat
If you look at a calendar I can see why you are counting today as 3 weeks and I made it yesterday....it is funny. 
Maybe we just celebrate you for two days from now on. 
s
Maybe we just celebrate you for two days from now on.
s
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Originally Posted by katlin
LoveHateWhine,
I had the same type of situation as you describe with an "old best friend" who was also a distant cousin over 20 years ago. To this day, I do not know why she ended our friendship abruptly. In addition to severing our relationship, she spread complete falsehoods about me within a peer group and family. I was so upset and worried and stewed about it for several years but then I finally let it go. I realized that it was completely out of my control and that her actions said more about her than about me. Over the years, we have been in several social settings together related to family events and I basically just ignore her and she does the same. It's awkward, but quite honestly I have no desire to be in her presence and don't trust that I could even have a casual relationship with her after her actions. I've heard through the "grapevine" that she has said she'd like to make amends but some things are better left alone. I hope that your former best friend receives you well and that you are able to have some healing of that relationship. I agree with you that it would be a difficult if not impossible feat to build back the type of relationship you had with her in the past. Good luck!
I had the same type of situation as you describe with an "old best friend" who was also a distant cousin over 20 years ago. To this day, I do not know why she ended our friendship abruptly. In addition to severing our relationship, she spread complete falsehoods about me within a peer group and family. I was so upset and worried and stewed about it for several years but then I finally let it go. I realized that it was completely out of my control and that her actions said more about her than about me. Over the years, we have been in several social settings together related to family events and I basically just ignore her and she does the same. It's awkward, but quite honestly I have no desire to be in her presence and don't trust that I could even have a casual relationship with her after her actions. I've heard through the "grapevine" that she has said she'd like to make amends but some things are better left alone. I hope that your former best friend receives you well and that you are able to have some healing of that relationship. I agree with you that it would be a difficult if not impossible feat to build back the type of relationship you had with her in the past. Good luck!
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Bodhi - I agree that some people come for a season and leave our lives for a reason. I won't go into gory details, but looking back at my own situation I realized the authentic relationship was mostly on my part. In the early days after the friendship was severed I had moments where I would remember my former friend's reactions to events (negative or less than positive) in my life at the time. I realized she almost seemed pleased when I had something less than an "everything's coming up roses" kind of day" and that by seeing me not have a great day she had a better day. I'm not sure why I didn't have that clarity when we were friendly but once it dawned on me that this was the reality it made it a little easier to understand. She was, I realized, a pretty miserable person and truthfully I think she enjoyed having a relationship with me when I was struggling (I went through a divorce during the time we were the closest). Seeing me happy didn't float her boat. You know the old saying "misery loves company". When I wasn't miserable, she wasn't happy. So ... that's just my story. I know every instance is different but at least in my case I have no regrets about this particular relationship. Now, others? I could write a book about regrets ... but I think I'll think happy thoughts instead. It's better for my sober plan.
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Good Morning 🌞
What a wonderfully active class. I'll just leave things at congratulating everyone on getting through and offering my thoughts to those having difficulties. Still getting my sea legs back following the busier threads.
Yesterday was a particularly horrid day (too grotesque and graphic to share on here). I always try to find the silver lining in any situation though: I was kept so urgently busy that the thought of drinking couldn't enter my mind and I dropped into bed utterly exhausted at the end of the day. Im hoping today isn't too hard to get through its often after such events that things hit me.
But I only have myself to blame for being back in the grips of the beast so I'm just going to have to suck it up. Although I do find I'm practiced enough that its easier to fight then when I first starting battling this. I've got plenty of projects to keep me busy too. Hopefully listening to music or podcasts on my headphones will help distract me from the AV while I work.
My best wishes to all ☺️
What a wonderfully active class. I'll just leave things at congratulating everyone on getting through and offering my thoughts to those having difficulties. Still getting my sea legs back following the busier threads.
Yesterday was a particularly horrid day (too grotesque and graphic to share on here). I always try to find the silver lining in any situation though: I was kept so urgently busy that the thought of drinking couldn't enter my mind and I dropped into bed utterly exhausted at the end of the day. Im hoping today isn't too hard to get through its often after such events that things hit me.
But I only have myself to blame for being back in the grips of the beast so I'm just going to have to suck it up. Although I do find I'm practiced enough that its easier to fight then when I first starting battling this. I've got plenty of projects to keep me busy too. Hopefully listening to music or podcasts on my headphones will help distract me from the AV while I work.
My best wishes to all ☺️
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It gets harder and harder to come back RAL, but not impossible
I guess my question ( and I mean this with the best of intent) is…what are you doing to not drink?
is it enough?
what else can you do?
D
I guess my question ( and I mean this with the best of intent) is…what are you doing to not drink?
is it enough?
what else can you do?
D
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Because it gets harder to stop dear RAL. It is NOT because you are useless.
It just might be time to add some things to help...maybe we can check in with you on your way home.....before you can get to that bottle shop.
Don't give up.... we are all with you here. s ❤️
It just might be time to add some things to help...maybe we can check in with you on your way home.....before you can get to that bottle shop.
Don't give up.... we are all with you here.
s ❤️
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