Everyone that helped me here: I am forever grateful
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Everyone that helped me here: I am forever grateful
I just want to shout out to the wonderful women (and men) that have helped me along this journey we called life.
Sometimes we need the cold hard truth. Face it and tackle it the best we know how.
Survive the best we can for ourselves and our children.
All is still well with me and my sober heroin addict husband. He has 3 years and 7 months sober. He sponsors guys and still goes to his meetings. Maintains a 20+ number call list that he uses - all the time. I'm happy for him.
In the beginning he was gone every single night. I would get home from work and he would take the car and be out until 9-10pm at a meeting. Or a friend would pick him up. 100 meetings in 100 days and i'm pretty sure he did 120 meetings in those 100 days because he was so fearful he wouldn't hold on to it. He understood he was of the hopeless variety. He actually read the book and took other mens advice. He changed sponsors a few times now. He said sometimes you just need a fresh look at the 4th step and re-do the work. It's a lifetime commitment for him.
I also want to say that all I did to help was stay in my lane. Give him space to go to meetings. To not make him feel guilty for missing family events so he could go to meetings. BBQ's, birthdays, special events. Literally recovery has to come first, because if you don't have that you lose everything. It's not easy letting them go but letting them have a community (that you are not a part of) is part of the process of loving them. You have to let them go so you can have them at all.
Now, almost 4 years later - I just want to say i'm still so grateful for all the support that the people here offered me. I love you guys. I know how corny that sounds. I know I don't check in often, or comment.
Be blessed <3
Sometimes we need the cold hard truth. Face it and tackle it the best we know how.
Survive the best we can for ourselves and our children.
All is still well with me and my sober heroin addict husband. He has 3 years and 7 months sober. He sponsors guys and still goes to his meetings. Maintains a 20+ number call list that he uses - all the time. I'm happy for him.
In the beginning he was gone every single night. I would get home from work and he would take the car and be out until 9-10pm at a meeting. Or a friend would pick him up. 100 meetings in 100 days and i'm pretty sure he did 120 meetings in those 100 days because he was so fearful he wouldn't hold on to it. He understood he was of the hopeless variety. He actually read the book and took other mens advice. He changed sponsors a few times now. He said sometimes you just need a fresh look at the 4th step and re-do the work. It's a lifetime commitment for him.
I also want to say that all I did to help was stay in my lane. Give him space to go to meetings. To not make him feel guilty for missing family events so he could go to meetings. BBQ's, birthdays, special events. Literally recovery has to come first, because if you don't have that you lose everything. It's not easy letting them go but letting them have a community (that you are not a part of) is part of the process of loving them. You have to let them go so you can have them at all.
Now, almost 4 years later - I just want to say i'm still so grateful for all the support that the people here offered me. I love you guys. I know how corny that sounds. I know I don't check in often, or comment.
Be blessed <3
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I just want to shout out to the wonderful women (and men) that have helped me along this journey we called life.
Sometimes we need the cold hard truth. Face it and tackle it the best we know how.
Survive the best we can for ourselves and our children.
All is still well with me and my sober heroin addict husband. He has 3 years and 7 months sober. He sponsors guys and still goes to his meetings. Maintains a 20+ number call list that he uses - all the time. I'm happy for him.
In the beginning he was gone every single night. I would get home from work and he would take the car and be out until 9-10pm at a meeting. Or a friend would pick him up. 100 meetings in 100 days and i'm pretty sure he did 120 meetings in those 100 days because he was so fearful he wouldn't hold on to it. He understood he was of the hopeless variety. He actually read the book and took other mens advice. He changed sponsors a few times now. He said sometimes you just need a fresh look at the 4th step and re-do the work. It's a lifetime commitment for him.
I also want to say that all I did to help was stay in my lane. Give him space to go to meetings. To not make him feel guilty for missing family events so he could go to meetings. BBQ's, birthdays, special events. Literally recovery has to come first, because if you don't have that you lose everything. It's not easy letting them go but letting them have a community (that you are not a part of) is part of the process of loving them. You have to let them go so you can have them at all.
Now, almost 4 years later - I just want to say i'm still so grateful for all the support that the people here offered me. I love you guys. I know how corny that sounds. I know I don't check in often, or comment.
Be blessed <3
Sometimes we need the cold hard truth. Face it and tackle it the best we know how.
Survive the best we can for ourselves and our children.
All is still well with me and my sober heroin addict husband. He has 3 years and 7 months sober. He sponsors guys and still goes to his meetings. Maintains a 20+ number call list that he uses - all the time. I'm happy for him.
In the beginning he was gone every single night. I would get home from work and he would take the car and be out until 9-10pm at a meeting. Or a friend would pick him up. 100 meetings in 100 days and i'm pretty sure he did 120 meetings in those 100 days because he was so fearful he wouldn't hold on to it. He understood he was of the hopeless variety. He actually read the book and took other mens advice. He changed sponsors a few times now. He said sometimes you just need a fresh look at the 4th step and re-do the work. It's a lifetime commitment for him.
I also want to say that all I did to help was stay in my lane. Give him space to go to meetings. To not make him feel guilty for missing family events so he could go to meetings. BBQ's, birthdays, special events. Literally recovery has to come first, because if you don't have that you lose everything. It's not easy letting them go but letting them have a community (that you are not a part of) is part of the process of loving them. You have to let them go so you can have them at all.
Now, almost 4 years later - I just want to say i'm still so grateful for all the support that the people here offered me. I love you guys. I know how corny that sounds. I know I don't check in often, or comment.
Be blessed <3
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so happy for you, please congratulate your husband for me as well, that’s a MIRACLE as some would put it
I also want to say that all I did to help was stay in my lane. Give him space to go to meetings. To not make him feel guilty for missing family events so he could go to meetings. BBQ's, birthdays, special events. Literally recovery has to come first, because if you don't have that you lose everything.
Thank you for sharing good news.
Thank you for checking in!!! We love you back!
I am so happy to hear he is doing so well. That behavior is what shining recovery looks like. I am also so glad to hear you are doing so well!
Good stuff!!!!
I am so happy to hear he is doing so well. That behavior is what shining recovery looks like. I am also so glad to hear you are doing so well!
Good stuff!!!!
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