Empowerment
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Empowerment
Empowerment
You can think. You can make good decisions. You can make choices that are right for you.
Yes, we all make mistakes from time to time. But we are not mistakes.
We can make a new decision that takes new information into account.
We can change our mind from time to time. That's our right too.
We don't have to be intellectuals to make good choices. In recovery, we have a gift and a goal available to each of us. The gift is called wisdom.
Other people can think too. And that means we no longer have to feel responsible for other people's decisions.
That also means we are responsible for our choices.
We can reach out to others for feedback. We can ask for information. We can take opinions into account. But it is our task to make our own decisions. It is our pleasure and right to have our own opinions.
We are each free to embrace and enjoy the treasure of our own mind, intellect, and wisdom.
Today, I will treasure the gift of my mind. I will do my own thinking, make my own choices, and value my opinions. I will be open to what others think, but I will take responsibility for myself. I will ask for and trust that the Divine Wisdom is guiding me.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
You can think. You can make good decisions. You can make choices that are right for you.
Yes, we all make mistakes from time to time. But we are not mistakes.
We can make a new decision that takes new information into account.
We can change our mind from time to time. That's our right too.
We don't have to be intellectuals to make good choices. In recovery, we have a gift and a goal available to each of us. The gift is called wisdom.
Other people can think too. And that means we no longer have to feel responsible for other people's decisions.
That also means we are responsible for our choices.
We can reach out to others for feedback. We can ask for information. We can take opinions into account. But it is our task to make our own decisions. It is our pleasure and right to have our own opinions.
We are each free to embrace and enjoy the treasure of our own mind, intellect, and wisdom.
Today, I will treasure the gift of my mind. I will do my own thinking, make my own choices, and value my opinions. I will be open to what others think, but I will take responsibility for myself. I will ask for and trust that the Divine Wisdom is guiding me.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
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This reading today took me back to the days when I was living in the insanity of my son's addiction and my own codependency, a toxic combination.
I was so busy trying to figure out what he was thinking that I didn't think for myself or about myself.
When I tried to take a stand, it was challenged. Of course it was because it interfered with his ability to get and continue to use drugs.
Then I started to take a stand and make decisions that were about ME, what was and was not acceptable in MY life. When he protested I could honestly tell him that this was nothing to do with him, he could live however he wanted...any place other than in MY home, because MY peace of mind had just become top priority in my life.
I went to weekly meetings, 2 of them each week, to wrap myself in support and learn how to find my balance again from others who had been where I was.
Slowly, over time, I reclaimed my life and my sanity...because I finally had found the courage and self-care to make decisions that were good for me and healthy for me, regardless of how anyone else chose to live their life.
Empowerment is a wonderful thing. It's there, right there, waiting for the moment when we decide we are worth the time and work to find it.
Hugs
I was so busy trying to figure out what he was thinking that I didn't think for myself or about myself.
When I tried to take a stand, it was challenged. Of course it was because it interfered with his ability to get and continue to use drugs.
Then I started to take a stand and make decisions that were about ME, what was and was not acceptable in MY life. When he protested I could honestly tell him that this was nothing to do with him, he could live however he wanted...any place other than in MY home, because MY peace of mind had just become top priority in my life.
I went to weekly meetings, 2 of them each week, to wrap myself in support and learn how to find my balance again from others who had been where I was.
Slowly, over time, I reclaimed my life and my sanity...because I finally had found the courage and self-care to make decisions that were good for me and healthy for me, regardless of how anyone else chose to live their life.
Empowerment is a wonderful thing. It's there, right there, waiting for the moment when we decide we are worth the time and work to find it.
Hugs
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