DPGirl15

Hello. My husband will be returning home from rehab in a few weeks. I am trying to set new boundaries for when he returns but I am having a hard time. I was wondering if anyone had any advice or suggestions. I don't expect him to come home and be perfect but at the same time I need to take care of me and my child. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

cynical one

Welcome to SR. Be sure to read the stickys at the top of the page, I'm sure there is some good stuff on boundaries.

Boundaries are for you. They allow acceptable and healthy behavior from others in, but keep unacceptable and unhealthy behaviors out. Only you can decide what you are willing or unwilling to tolerate.

Boundaries are "I" statements and not "you must" rules.

Boundaries are something that you enforce.

For instance a boundary would be "I will not allow myself or my child to be around someone who is loaded. If I suspect someone has been using drugs or alcohol I will remove myself and my child from the situation".

A rule would be "You cannot drink or drug".

Boundaries allow others the dignity to live their lives as they choose, and then you have the choice of what you will allow in your life.

Vale

I will not allow myself to be mistreated.........PERIOD.

Txhelp

Be sure the boundaries that you set are those that you are willing to follow through.

I look for:

Safety

Peace