Letting Go of Self Doubt
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Letting Go of Self Doubt
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Letting Go of Self Doubt
A married woman who had recently joined Al-Anon called me one afternoon. She worked part-time as a registered nurse, had assumed all the responsibilities for raising her two children, and did all the household chores, including repairs and finances. "I want to separate from my husband," she sobbed. "I can't stand him or his abuse any longer. But tell me, please tell me," she said, "do you think I can take care of myself?"
—Codependent No More
Not only is it okay to take care of ourselves, we can take good care of ourselves.
Many of us, so confident about our ability to take care of others, doubt our inherent strength to care for ourselves. We may have come to believe, from our past or present circumstances, that we need to take care of others and we need others to take care of us. This is the ultimate codependent belief.
No matter where this self-defeating belief was born, we can release it and replace it with a better one, a healthier one, a more accurate one.
We can take care of ourselves -- whether we are in or out of a relationship. Everything we need will be provided. We will have loved ones, friends, and our Higher Power to help.
Knowing that we can take care of ourselves doesn't mean we won't have feelings of fear, discomfort, doubt, anger, and fragility at times. It means we practice "courageous vulnerability," as Colette Dowling called it in Cinderella Complex. We may feel scared, but we do it anyway.
Today, God, help me know how I can take care of myself.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Letting Go of Self Doubt
A married woman who had recently joined Al-Anon called me one afternoon. She worked part-time as a registered nurse, had assumed all the responsibilities for raising her two children, and did all the household chores, including repairs and finances. "I want to separate from my husband," she sobbed. "I can't stand him or his abuse any longer. But tell me, please tell me," she said, "do you think I can take care of myself?"
—Codependent No More
Not only is it okay to take care of ourselves, we can take good care of ourselves.
Many of us, so confident about our ability to take care of others, doubt our inherent strength to care for ourselves. We may have come to believe, from our past or present circumstances, that we need to take care of others and we need others to take care of us. This is the ultimate codependent belief.
No matter where this self-defeating belief was born, we can release it and replace it with a better one, a healthier one, a more accurate one.
We can take care of ourselves -- whether we are in or out of a relationship. Everything we need will be provided. We will have loved ones, friends, and our Higher Power to help.
Knowing that we can take care of ourselves doesn't mean we won't have feelings of fear, discomfort, doubt, anger, and fragility at times. It means we practice "courageous vulnerability," as Colette Dowling called it in Cinderella Complex. We may feel scared, but we do it anyway.
Today, God, help me know how I can take care of myself.
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I love this reading. My father died when I was 6 and my wonderful mother raised me and my two brothers while working full time and still had time for her church meetings and twice a month bridge club.
She has always been my inspiration in life, if I need to do something I know I CAN do it because my mother did it before me. I remember her wise words when she told me "No matter what you do in life, no matter who you marry, always make sure you can look after yourself if you need to."
I am grateful that I haven't had to do everything for myself, like my mother before me, but I am even more grateful for the lessons she gave me...because I KNOW I can look after myself no matter what life hands me.
Thanks LMN, for reminding me of my mother's example today.
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She has always been my inspiration in life, if I need to do something I know I CAN do it because my mother did it before me. I remember her wise words when she told me "No matter what you do in life, no matter who you marry, always make sure you can look after yourself if you need to."
I am grateful that I haven't had to do everything for myself, like my mother before me, but I am even more grateful for the lessons she gave me...because I KNOW I can look after myself no matter what life hands me.
Thanks LMN, for reminding me of my mother's example today.
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