call me crazy
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 1,618
call me crazy
The kids havent seen D since he went to rehab in january. He is coming to visit with them tomorrow. I feel he is sober and now emotionally stable enough to see them. We are going to the zoo. Freaking out. I hope it goes well, I hope this isnt a mistake. They ask for him all the time, I know the thought of him never fades.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 140
It's hard because there are on guidelines for things like this. How long is long enough to wait? Will it ever feel like it's the right time? I told my ex bf he couldn't see our daughter while he was still using. I let him start seeing her after only a little over a month clean. Obviously there is no guarantee. I worry about what happens if he relapses. Then what? I'm lucky that she's just a baby and won't really understand what's going on right now at least.
I hope things go well for your family tomorrow and from now on. If things do go downhill after this, realize it's not your fault. Obviously you're doing what you feel is right or okay right now, so hopefully he will be thankful for that and continue to stay clean so he can be in his kids' lives.
Sorry, I have no good advice because I'm new to all this, but just want to let you know I'm wishing you the best.
I hope things go well for your family tomorrow and from now on. If things do go downhill after this, realize it's not your fault. Obviously you're doing what you feel is right or okay right now, so hopefully he will be thankful for that and continue to stay clean so he can be in his kids' lives.
Sorry, I have no good advice because I'm new to all this, but just want to let you know I'm wishing you the best.
Member
Join Date: May 2012
Posts: 1,927
I hope you all have a good day tomorrow. It sounds like a wonderful outing. I know your kids are older than my son was when his dad was in rehab. I used to take him to visit there. And then his dad came home after 3 months. I know it was easier for me because of my sons age. I didnt have as many worries about his emotional state. So I wont offer you any advice, except to continue to pray about it all 7 enjoy the time you have together. Have fun tomorrow !
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 1,618
Thanks guys. My biggest struggle is always future tripping. Trying to stay in the moment every day. You all help me do that. I appreciate it. I guess I should follow my own signature and not be a hypocrite 
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
