emotional behaviour while beng on drug
emotional behaviour while beng on drug
I am reading all your post guys and you wont believe how many of them sound similiar for me. I am still new to family of addicted community. I know for 3 weeks only my boyfriend is an cocaine addict.
so i wonder, if this is whats going on. when they on drug they just saying or doing some things. and whey they become clean even for one day it hits them what they have done their eyes open and they can see? as i posted yestertday my boyfriend breake up with me in weird way. so same day he stay over, told me he loves me. next day i calle him (maybe it was stupid, but if you know its a desease you still care) and he pick up the phone in a sec, like a rocket. never happened before. we had nice chat. then i texted him that im sorry for swearing at him and he responce "dont be silly, we all doing and sauying things we dont mean in anger".
so does it mean he is struggeling with his emotional behaviour?
so i wonder, if this is whats going on. when they on drug they just saying or doing some things. and whey they become clean even for one day it hits them what they have done their eyes open and they can see? as i posted yestertday my boyfriend breake up with me in weird way. so same day he stay over, told me he loves me. next day i calle him (maybe it was stupid, but if you know its a desease you still care) and he pick up the phone in a sec, like a rocket. never happened before. we had nice chat. then i texted him that im sorry for swearing at him and he responce "dont be silly, we all doing and sauying things we dont mean in anger".
so does it mean he is struggeling with his emotional behaviour?
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Cocaine and other drugs can make you really emotional on the withdrawal, especially if they're cut with bad fillers or mixed with other crap. So it could be part of a comedown, or more likely, it's the emotional stuff underneath that's driving the drug use, they're using drugs to escape various feelings.
Cocaine addicts don't care about people's feelings, stucna. They use people as objects of distraction or as enablers or for sex or money or drugs. Your boyfriend will tolerate you as long as you do not interfere with his drug habit. The moment you ask of him an honest relationship, mutual respect, and trustworthy behavior, he will see you as the enemy and he will find ways to control you or to push you out of his life.
One way addicts control other people is by making those people think that the real problem in the relationship is not drugs, it's not addiction, it's THEM. The addict convinces his partner that she is messed up, and he is a master at knowing how to make her doubt herself. He criticizes those things about her which are often the best parts of her and he makes her feel ashamed. He accuses her of trying to control him (when actually he is controlling her). He blames her for anything that goes wrong in the relationship (and everything goes wrong because he is a DRUG ADDICT). And before she knows it, she is at his mercy, and completely desperate for his approval.
So you are in danger, emotionally, right now. He will turn cold as a snake on you some days and you will doubt your own worth and your right to be treated lovingly and with respect.
If you stay with him, you should find yourself a good counselor, dear, because you will need someone on your side to help you with the pain which will be an inevitable outcome of loving a selfish, self-absorbed, out-of-his mind cokehead.
One way addicts control other people is by making those people think that the real problem in the relationship is not drugs, it's not addiction, it's THEM. The addict convinces his partner that she is messed up, and he is a master at knowing how to make her doubt herself. He criticizes those things about her which are often the best parts of her and he makes her feel ashamed. He accuses her of trying to control him (when actually he is controlling her). He blames her for anything that goes wrong in the relationship (and everything goes wrong because he is a DRUG ADDICT). And before she knows it, she is at his mercy, and completely desperate for his approval.
So you are in danger, emotionally, right now. He will turn cold as a snake on you some days and you will doubt your own worth and your right to be treated lovingly and with respect.
If you stay with him, you should find yourself a good counselor, dear, because you will need someone on your side to help you with the pain which will be an inevitable outcome of loving a selfish, self-absorbed, out-of-his mind cokehead.
One way addicts control other people is by making those people think that the real problem in the relationship is not drugs, it's not addiction, it's THEM. The addict convinces his partner that she is messed up, and he is a master at knowing how to make her doubt herself. He criticizes those things about her which are often the best parts of her and he makes her feel ashamed. He accuses her of trying to control him (when actually he is controlling her). He blames her for anything that goes wrong in the relationship (and everything goes wrong because he is a DRUG ADDICT). And before she knows it, she is at his mercy, and completely desperate for his approval.
yesterday at night he texted me lots. how i feel, if i am ok... so i wonder if that guiltyness or he really miss me or he thought what the heck ive done. and now i can add to the list: if he is trying to manipulate me?
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