facebook message today: I need help
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facebook message today: I need help
Hello Posse of Mama's, today I heard from JJ directly through facebook (first time since July 6).
I felt compelled this morning to send a quick message to JJ, I said
"I am still here for you. Love Mom"
At 4:26 he replied "I need help".
So I messaged back, "Will you call me?"
Not a peep.
I sent a quick note to him saying if he needed immediate medical attention to go the hospital, he is still covered on our insurance. i let him know my offer of help was only to help him detox safely and get off drugs.
I also let him know I prayed he would do that.
This all happened at 4:30 PM today.
No other word. I am letting it go, very difficult to do.
After the message, I had a panic attack, nerves shot me down and now I hope I can get some sleep.
All words of wisdom are welcome. I have clear boundaries, that offer of help is all I can do right now.
Requesting prayers from my SR family.
Teresa
I felt compelled this morning to send a quick message to JJ, I said
"I am still here for you. Love Mom"
At 4:26 he replied "I need help".
So I messaged back, "Will you call me?"
Not a peep.
I sent a quick note to him saying if he needed immediate medical attention to go the hospital, he is still covered on our insurance. i let him know my offer of help was only to help him detox safely and get off drugs.
I also let him know I prayed he would do that.
This all happened at 4:30 PM today.
No other word. I am letting it go, very difficult to do.
After the message, I had a panic attack, nerves shot me down and now I hope I can get some sleep.
All words of wisdom are welcome. I have clear boundaries, that offer of help is all I can do right now.
Requesting prayers from my SR family.
Teresa
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((Teresa)) - I'm not a mama but am sending mega prayers your way. Though I'm sure it's not what you want to hear, many times I felt desparate for help but as soon as I found more dope, I forgot about it. I'm not saying that's what's going on with ((JJ)) but it's a possibility.
I can assure you he knows how much you love him. I can pray (which I am) that he is at, or really close to the point where he's ready for recovery.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
I can assure you he knows how much you love him. I can pray (which I am) that he is at, or really close to the point where he's ready for recovery.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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Teresa
Those messages can elevate fear levels to the RED ZONE. I've received them before and I do understand the anxiety a message like that can produce.
Time will reveal more....it always does. In the meantime JJ is in the hands of his HP. Breathe. And I'll pray with you that he is nearing a point of truly being ready for the kind of help needed to recover from this dreadful disease.
You are also in my prayers.
gentle gentle hugs
ke
Those messages can elevate fear levels to the RED ZONE. I've received them before and I do understand the anxiety a message like that can produce.
Time will reveal more....it always does. In the meantime JJ is in the hands of his HP. Breathe. And I'll pray with you that he is nearing a point of truly being ready for the kind of help needed to recover from this dreadful disease.
You are also in my prayers.
gentle gentle hugs
ke
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(((Teresa))) I just logged on ... I will definitely be praying tonight for JJ, keep praying .... sounds like he is close to where he needs to be to get help
I am in a similar place, spoke with my son tonight and will be driving him to a rehab tomorrow. I'm praying his PO won't violate him but if she does, she does ... can't control that. I've suspected for some time that he had relapsed even though the sporadic times he has contacted me recently he acted like all was well. Like you I recently sent a message telling him I loved him and urged him to get help.
It is such a fierce battle .... I asked him if he thought it would be different this time and all he said is "I hope so" I give him credit for his fight, and I continue to pray, it's all I can do but I think it is the most powerful thing ... there is so much we cannot see ...
much love and prayer for you and JJ tonight
I am in a similar place, spoke with my son tonight and will be driving him to a rehab tomorrow. I'm praying his PO won't violate him but if she does, she does ... can't control that. I've suspected for some time that he had relapsed even though the sporadic times he has contacted me recently he acted like all was well. Like you I recently sent a message telling him I loved him and urged him to get help.
It is such a fierce battle .... I asked him if he thought it would be different this time and all he said is "I hope so" I give him credit for his fight, and I continue to pray, it's all I can do but I think it is the most powerful thing ... there is so much we cannot see ...
much love and prayer for you and JJ tonight
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((Teresa)) - I don't know about you, but whenever I'm in a tizzy or crisis, my first thought is "just let me get to SR, and I'll be okay". I hope you feel all the love and prayers surrounding you and ((JJ)) and you can get a good night's rest.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
Yes that is exactly what I do, about 3 hours a day in all LOLMember
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Hello LMN, thanks for the reminder. i actually bookmarked your posts and I wil do so tomorrow. I will let you know how that goes. I talked to my entire family and we are all agreed, this is entirely up to JJ to decide how he wants to get help. We have left the resources open for medical care and he can detox safely and we won't make any further decisions until that step is taken on what is next for him.
By the way, you are so strong and so full of faith. i always read your posts and they are consistent and full of wisdom and love.
Teresa
By the way, you are so strong and so full of faith. i always read your posts and they are consistent and full of wisdom and love.
Teresa
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Hi Teresa,
LMN said it all... Big hugs and prayers to you and to JJ this eve... that he really does reach out for help for himself. I was always hopeful for my AH to finally see the light and dig deep to get better... even at the end.
Where there's hope, there's always a chance and well, that's big in my books! Sending you peace and solace and comfort tonight.
xo
LMN said it all... Big hugs and prayers to you and to JJ this eve... that he really does reach out for help for himself. I was always hopeful for my AH to finally see the light and dig deep to get better... even at the end.
Where there's hope, there's always a chance and well, that's big in my books! Sending you peace and solace and comfort tonight.
xo
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