outtolunch

Sober living homes ( unlike many families) do not tolerate guests who do not become self-sustaining and productive. There is a target date by which time the house guests must become employed or residence is terminated.

kj3880

It isn't as though Sober Living has a monopoly on addict rent. My ex lives in a $100 a week room in a house that only other people in recovery live at. They don't know or care whether people are on unemployment there, only that they stay clean. There are tons of these but you only get to find out about them if you go to your local NA meetings (and I don't mean you, Callie, I mean HIM!).

Thanks for saying you see me fighting hard. It is hard. But so is your battle for recovery, Sweetie. So are the choices you must make for your and your childrens' present and future now. But so worth it! Can you stand up and fight for your recovery from codependency with me?

Love,
KJ

splendra

I chose for myself and my H when I called the cops on him. I wanted him out the cops had a warrant it was easy to put 1+1 together. Even the Universe was helping with this situation I was in with him.

I am sure he is very angry at me too. I hope he can get over it. I am over it though and I intend to stay that way. I have had a few good times with him but he has also been way more of a pain in the patoot than anything. I don't see my self going back with him or have any hope that we will be close friends. I am detoxing from all the toxic behavior and thoughts that have been going on with me. It is my behavior that got me in this mess. If I continue blaming him(even though I feel that some of my behavior is a result of his out of control chaos going on around me) I won't be free. Above all else I choose freedom.

I have so much to catch up on me with. I have been buried in crap for a long time. I am focusing on getting all crap out of my life. It is totally refreshing also over whelming. I am taking small steps right now. Doing only what is doable.

Hug yourself for me see how good that feels