Language of Letting Go - Feb. 6 - Stop Victimizing
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Language of Letting Go - Feb. 6 - Stop Victimizing
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Stopping Victimization
Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people mistreated us. We may have believed we deserved mistreatment; we may have been attracted to people who mistreated us.
We need to let go, on a deep level, of our need to be victimized and to be victims. We need to let go of our need to be in dysfunctional relationships and systems at work, in love, in family relationships, in friendships. We deserve better. We deserve much better. It is our right. When we believe in our right to happiness, we will have happiness.
We will fight for that right, and the fight will emerge from our souls. Break free from oppression and victimization.
Today, I will liberate myself by letting go of my need to be a victim, and I'll explore my freedom to take care of myself. That liberation will not take me further away from people I love. It will bring me closer to people and more in harmony with God's plan for my life.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Stopping Victimization
Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people mistreated us. We may have believed we deserved mistreatment; we may have been attracted to people who mistreated us.
We need to let go, on a deep level, of our need to be victimized and to be victims. We need to let go of our need to be in dysfunctional relationships and systems at work, in love, in family relationships, in friendships. We deserve better. We deserve much better. It is our right. When we believe in our right to happiness, we will have happiness.
We will fight for that right, and the fight will emerge from our souls. Break free from oppression and victimization.
Today, I will liberate myself by letting go of my need to be a victim, and I'll explore my freedom to take care of myself. That liberation will not take me further away from people I love. It will bring me closer to people and more in harmony with God's plan for my life.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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For me, when I live in the problem I am a victim. But when I embrace my recovery and live in the solution, I become a survivor and can move ahead a little wiser for the journey.
I cannot change the past, but I can gain wisdom, courage and strength that will ensure that my future is all mine for the making.
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I cannot change the past, but I can gain wisdom, courage and strength that will ensure that my future is all mine for the making.
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I'm with you Winnie. I was my own worst enemy and I was a major victim of myself.
I thought I was a victim of everyone else's moods, needs, wants, comfort zones, etc. When others didn't call or weren't around - I automatically went to "what did I do wrong"? Then I went to getting angry, "what, why do I have to do more? I didn't do anything"?
DUH - it had NOTHING to do with me, they had their own lives, and I was not a part of their decision making process how they lived their days! WOW - really?
Obviously just one of the sillier examples of what I allowed myself to be a victim of, and it was all inside myself. I am so glad I am learning, and have learned, better!
(((hugs)))
I thought I was a victim of everyone else's moods, needs, wants, comfort zones, etc. When others didn't call or weren't around - I automatically went to "what did I do wrong"? Then I went to getting angry, "what, why do I have to do more? I didn't do anything"?
DUH - it had NOTHING to do with me, they had their own lives, and I was not a part of their decision making process how they lived their days! WOW - really?
Obviously just one of the sillier examples of what I allowed myself to be a victim of, and it was all inside myself. I am so glad I am learning, and have learned, better!
(((hugs)))
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