NeedingHelp7

Huggs Splendra, glad he's out of the house.

Seren

I'm so glad to hear that another police officer came by the house (and a woman no less). That must have been a bit more reassuring. I hope that you and your Mom will find some peace at the end of all of this! Please take good care of yourself and, again, hugs to you and your Mom!

HG

greeteachday

((((Splendra)))) I hope tonight is peaceful and you and your mom can get some rest. I know the fatigue is much more than physical, but a good rest always helps me to see things more clearly and to rebalance. I become helpless when I feel helpless. Hugs

frankly

((splendra))

In a way, I can see that history has repeated itself, you have followed your mom's steps in that department, but you have broken that cycle, you are standing firm and tall and making changes in your life, even if they aren't over night, you are doing a painful thing, a hard thing to do, breaking free from the cycle. At the same time, what you are doing, may help give your mom help to break free too, it's never too late, no matter what your age.

Your avatar has always given me such a lift, because I know, that deep inside of you, is that girl wanting to dance and just paint the world, she wants to come out and play and laugh again. So chin up girlfriend, take the next right step whatever that may be. Find a funny movie to watch that will make you smile.

You are strong, you can get through all of this, I know it.

B

P.S. Put some music on, grab mom and dance a little around the house, pretend that you are just walking (or stomping) all over everyone that has hurt you! (-:

ChronicLogic

Your post makes me extremely sad, but glad for you all the same. I lived with a very violent, alcoholic/addict ex-wife. When I finally stopped picking her up from the bars, from police, or whatever I did to attempt to protect her, I felt more empowered, and confident, and hopeful. When she went to jail for the last domestic, I couldn't even cry. I was done. I knew that she was going to have to be faced with great consequence, in order to both sober up, and feel some sense of personal consequence. She did in fact receive court-ordered, mandatory nightly AA meetings, treatment etc. She DID finally take control of her life. County jail isn't pretty, but both he, and your family will eventually feel empowered, and resurrected in a sense, once he shows progressive improvement. And although you'll never get a "thanks for sending me to jail""It was a great epiphany", he'll always remember that you did what you had to do because you love him, and had no choice. I know, I put my family through the same craziness myself a long time ago. I'm a different person because they made me face the music. I learned very quickly to accept responsibility for my own destructive nature, under the influence, and stopped taking the chemicals!

God bless!