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Language of Letting Go - June 16 - Surviving Slumps

Old 06-26-2008, 02:46 AM
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Language of Letting Go - June 16 - Surviving Slumps

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Surviving Slumps

A slump can go on for days. We feel sluggish, unfocused, and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can't sort out. We may not understand what is going on with us. Even our attempts to practice recovery behaviors may not appear to work. We still don't feel emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as good as we would like.

In a slump, we may find ourselves reverting instinctively to old patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving, even when we know better. We may find ourselves obsessing, even when we know that what we're doing is obsessing and that it doesn't work.

We may find ourselves looking frantically for other people to make us feel better, the whole time knowing our happiness and well being does not lay with others.

We may begin taking things personally that are not our issues, and reacting in ways we've learned all to well do not work.

We're in a slump. It won't last forever. These periods are normal, even necessary. These are the days to get through. These are the days to focus on recovery behaviors, whether or not the rewards occur immediately. These are sometimes the days to let ourselves be and love ourselves as much as we can.

We don't have to be ashamed, no matter how long we've been recovering. We don't have to unreasonably expect "more" from ourselves. We don't ever have to expect ourselves to live life perfectly.

Get through the slump. It will end. Sometimes, a slump can go on for days and then, in the course of an hour, we see ourselves pull out of it and feel better. Sometimes it can last a little longer.

Practice one recovery behavior in one small area, and begin to climb uphill. Soon, the slump will disappear. We can never judge where we will be tomorrow by where we are today.

Today, I will focus on practicing one recovery behavior on one of my issues, trusting that this practice will move me forward. I will remember that acceptance, gratitude, and detachment are a good place to begin.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie 1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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Old 06-26-2008, 03:17 AM
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Hi Ann, Thanx for the post. You know you are one of the most faithful people I have ever known. In all the time I have been coming here I know you haven't missed a day with these posts & you are always there for anyone who needs you.
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thanks for finding this. i needed to read this & missed it on the 16th. we can get thru these slumps one day at a time.
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Old 06-26-2008, 10:02 AM
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I guess that is what has been going on with me.
Ann, you don't know how much better it makes me feel to read this.
I have been starting to come out of it a bit this week but it feels good to read something that puts my feelings into perspective.

Thanks for taking the time to do what you do!
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