katie44

Well I finally did it I kicked my AS out yesterday, my mastercard came in some how he got a hold of the pin and withdrew $900.00. I called there fraud department, and told him to leave. Today I feel a sense of releif. I know I can't help him, I cant fix this problem. I know putting a cushion under his butt is only enabling him. I will not take him back no matter how much he begs me. When he left he was crying asking me what he was going to do I told him I love him, if he needed a ride to rehab or detox to call me, other then that I was not going to help him anymore. If he can source out drugs he can source out help. He was in shock he did everything he could do to change my mind, I can not live like this anymore. I pray he finds his way and I know this is the only way. Who would want to stop using when they have 3 meals a day, no job and a warm bed, and can steal to get there fix. Its like a light bulb has gone off in my head why did it take 3 years.

Jewelz

katie, I am praying for your son.. I hope he finds the help he needs.

Hugs,
Jewel

Lovestoomuch

I'll be keeping your son in my prayers as well. You're doing good honey. Stay strong. If he wants out of this life bad enough.....he'll find the help he needs.

parentrecovers

oh katie, i understand. it is such a tough disease. i'm praying for you and your son. please find peace in your decision - you did the right thing. blessings, k

cece1960

Oh Katie,
It takes what it takes for us to reach our bottoms.
His may still be in sight...just on his time, not ours.
Prayers that he finds a better way to lead his life
((((hugs)))
Cece

mooselips

(((Katie))))
Sometimes, we just have to do everything we can to try to "help" them, before the light bulb goes on. Unfortunately it took me a long time, and alot of moohlah to recognize how powerless I really was. Think of your decision as saving his life. Maybe his lightbulb will go on, too!

We're all here for you kiddo,
hugs, and prayers.

marle

Katie, It took three years because that is how long it took. Don't beat yourself up about it. You drew a boundary with him. You did good. Believe me it will feel strange at first, you will probably start feeling guilty. Don't. He will probably try to make you feel like a horrible mother. Don't buy it. You are a good mother, one who never practiced what it would be like to deal with an addict. They don't put those in the cute "Mommy" books. Sending you some hugs, Marle

hope213

katie, you hit your bottom.i know it was hard to do but maybe he will hit his.kinda funny how they can find the sourse to get what they need when mama quits helping.my prayers are for you & your son.

GypsyWoman5

Katie, stay strong. It's so darn hard! My prayers are w/ you both. Blessings.

dollydo

Yes, that bolt of lightening just hits, and there is no turning back.

You have done everything you could, now it's up to him.

My prayers are with you and yours,

teke

keeping you and your son in my prayers, in my opinion, what your are doing is not only the best thing for you to do for you but it may just be a life saver for your son, i pray that he finds his way soon.

Brownie

Stay strong Katie - keep us posted - keeping you and your AS in my prayers and Sending (((HUGS)))

sun daisy

Katie - we basically did the same thing with our son. We drove him to mission halfway house- so far so good. I feel for you and only wish the best for you. You drew one line in the sand and keep up the good work. We all have gone thru this. We are here for you and support you.

greeteachday

Katie, I am so sorry things got to this point, but glad you sound very firm in your understanding that "helping" him isn't helping either of you. My prayers that he finds recovery and you find some peace now that you are not in the front row. Hugs

tropikgal2

Katie, I know that was oh so hard, but you did the right thing for you and for him. Stay strong and post here as often as you like.
(((HUGS)))

Wascally Wabbit

You are STRONG and you did what was right for you.
I hope he does get help and I hope you find peace in your heart.

Serenity_Seeker

Bingo!

You will do fine....stay busy!

Just believe...there is a Master Plan beginning...his HP will take it from here!

Cupicake

I think it is natural to exhaust every resource you can muster up. Do everything and anything within your power to help. Love him 100% and give 100% of yourself. And when that doesn't work you try a few more times and become so spent that you hit your bottom. It took me 3 1/2 years.

Now is the time to let things come into focus in your life. You know that helping for the most part does not help if he is unwilling to help himself and letting go is sometimes helpful because he needs to hit his bottom.

rozied

Katie, You don't know me but my name is Diane & I am the mom of a 40 yr old addicted son. This addiction has been going on for 20 yrs as my parents will not stop enabling him. I hope & pray you are not dealing with the same thing with your AS.
You sound like you have finally reached your bottom. At least you can say you are not enabling him. You did the right thing. I will keep you both in my prayers. I pray your son will now reach his bottom.
Love,
Diane

bookmiser

(((((((Katie)))))))))

I'm so sorry, honey. I know the pain your going through.
I did it too. I sent my son to jail for 6 months for stealing from me.
He's growing up alot more now than he ever did under my roof.
Let him fall. It's for the best.
Sending love and support your way...