Brownie

Hi Everyone: I'm sure it is when my AD uses that she sees things - She gets angry when I don't see them too - she has own home about 50 min from here - It is disturbing for me. Am I doing the best thing to not acknowledge that someone is around her home and even in her home. Suggested to her a while back that she sees when using - she fears being "mental" but won't tell Doctor - she recently went back on meth program. PLEASE SUGGEST SOMETHING

Brownie

I get so I fear just not doing anything - AD never wants money and I'm trying not to be a code so maybe that is part of my terror expecially tonight since she called.

lostparent

What kind of things does she see?

Brownie

People taking pictures of her - evidence ie something around the outside of house moved so there is an "opening" to get in or she thinks back of closet removed so people can come in - she showed pictures to police a few weeks ago - they said "mental problem" that's when I went and stayed a couple of weeks and actually saw that she was "using" - she's 40.

Done_With_It

What do you mean she went back on meth program?


If I were you I'd stay away from her when she gets like that. Meth
is a hard drug, it can make you see things/people/etc..
Sounds exactly like what meth does....
If she is doing meth, she is mental. That stuff makes you think crazy...

You can't make her stop, she has to get sick enough of the craziness
in her life, then she'll want to stop on her own. But until that moment
comes, there's nothing you can do, except take care of yourself.
Don't go along with her, don't let her pull you down with her.
You have to take care of you, when she's ready to pull herself back
up, You'll be there...

Really the only thing you can do is take care of you....
Meth was my doc. It's some Powerful stuff... You
really really have to be ready to stop, no one can
stop you if your not ready yet...

Brownie

She's a Heroin Addict that was on the Methadone Program - she thought she could do recovery on her own last summer - never attended any 12 Step Meetings of had much counselling

Done_With_It

My old roommate and (xbestfriend) was like that from meth. He got so paranoid and crazy. He thougth I was inviting my friends over at night so
we could 'spy on him', he also thought me and my apt. building friends had put up cameras all over to watch him...
He left in middle of the night one time and went to the internet cafe to email me & say he was going to Sue me for Harrasement...
It only took a few months for him to get that way, but once he did, there was no convincing him.... I ended up kicking him out.... We were best friends for 8+ years before that.

Brownie

Thanks DoneWithIt - Sounds like you went through a lot too - at least I don't have to live with my AD -I'm still trying to "recover" after being home a week - This is the week-end for her and more stuff seems to happen then. Her work doesn't seem to suffer yet. Thanks for listening.

Done_With_It

Ahh no problem... I feel for her (and for you .....
Is she home on the weekend? Whenever I had time off
of work that was the worst, if you leave at least your not
left alone w/your little bag, etc... But when you are home
alone w/it.... Ughhh they call it the devils drug because....
When you do that first line.... omg, it's the best feeling.....
It's unexplainable, if your at home w/the bag you just sit
there and obsess and you just keep doing more than you
normally would. That's what causes that wierd paranoi...
(& lack of sleep)
That's the devils part of the drug I guess, but you don't get it...
(not you... but the user)
I never tweaked but my roommate did all the time, thats why
he got so wierd so fast. I did it once or twice on accident,
and it scared the hell out of me.. I just did bumps all the time.
But it took me a lot longer to fall, it worked for me for a long time.

Eventually esp. if she's tweaking it's going to stop working for her,
she's not going to get that high, no matter how many lines she
does... That's what happened to me. My baggie prices kept
going up in price, and I was going through them faster,
and it just wasn't working for me...

I had a lot of little signs that it was time for me to stop or I was
really going to get myself in trouble or die... Once that drug
stops working, once life is falling apart around you, You start to
hate the drug, and want your life back....

Don't give her money though no matter what she says....
It will go for another bag..... and don't let her lie to you.
Or don't fall for the lies...
Meth users come up with all kinds of stuff...
It's the stuff they make it with.
It eats away at your brain... It made me think so wierd...
But like I said you don't get it when it's happening,
it's like its someone else....

One day before work I was getting ready to leave, I was
dressed, (i was dressed nice, business like) and I had
like maybe 5 or 10 minutes before I had to leave...
Well.... I got this brilliant idea, lol, that I should make
a pair of my shoes into "Platforms"....
I kid you not I got out my Jigsaw, my drill, my dremmel
some wood I had on the porch, brought it all into my room,
High and a kite and I'm playing with POWERTOOLS!
Trying to make Platform shoes!! WTH?? LOL...
I forgot about work, then I remembered and was like
OMG!! I called, I think I told them I got into a car wreck
or something, then I left and went to work, like it was nothing..
That's how wierd you get.... LOL...


Keep talking these ladies here are Great!!


(((.....)))

Ann

Many drugs can cause delusions and she may really believe what she is saying is true, even though it is not. My son went through much the same thing when he used Meth (not methadone but crystal meth).

There is not much you can do, but (and forgive me for forgetting) if there are children involved, they are not safe in this kind of situation.

Prayers going out for your daughter, and you too because I know how scary this is for you.

Hugs

helpus

(((Brownie))) No advice, just hugs & prayers.

hope213

brownie, i have no advise, just hugs...prayers, hope

teke

sorry browie, no advice either, i think that done's advice is great. she said a lot and i know that its not suppose to be funny, but she really made me laugh out loud, to think that she's tring to make platform shoes in 5 mins, before work. please don't be offended by my laughter, its funny cause i remember how much crazy stuff i though and did while i was active.

the same stuff your daughter and done said that she did and saw, i did and saw them too and my doc was crack. i guess they both may have somewhat the same effect. i got better when i got clean and began to work a program. i know i stop seeing things and i think that my thought be came a little more normal. hopefully she'll find her way soon. i agree with done, let her alone, and let her figure this out for herself.

take care of yourself, and maybe the next time she calls you, continue to suggest that she calls the doctor cause there is nothing that you can do to stop whats happening to her, but the doctors maybe able to help her. if you are not so available, then she may one day call someone who really can help. thats what happened with me, my family stopped being there.

Brownie

Thanks Everyone! Don't worry Teke I laughed at the "Platform shoe thing too. I loved platforms they made me about 5'8" which was great. Ann grandkids with 2 legs only 4 legs - still care about them and worry if they get loose during the chaos. Got pictures e-mailed from AD this AM - and a call saying more to come - Please pray that she mentions this to her doctor tomorrow. Thanks. My e-mail from Hazeldon this AM said loving & considerate for the feelings and needs of others is different than emotional caretaking - that's like being a codie isn't it? Have to go