He relapsed again
Maureen Sullivan
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: springdale ar.
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He relapsed again
I'm so fed up. I'm engaged to a man that i met in Recovery. He is an alcoholic and i'm a drug addict. i've been clean for 2 years and i just get so frustrated that he cant stop. I found a hidden bottle again last night. He completly hides his drinking till he starts acting weird and i start looking for the bottles.
I don't want to leave him but i cant trust him. Help?
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Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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Im sorry your struggling with him, but as an addict you have to understand what he is up against. If you going to marry this man are you able to accept him just as he is today?
How long was he sober and working a program before you started dating if you dont mind my asking. When I first started attending Al-anon they promptly told me that I could not date anyone that did not have a year of soberity (strongly suggested) and that I needed to take a year off and work on me. Im told that the mind is still in a fog and some of the old timers told me they would suggest 5 years soberity.
You might want to think about taking in some Al-anon meetings, If your looking for bottles you might be spending too much time working on his soberity then working on yours ...
Remember this is just my thought process.... take what you want and leave the rest.
How long was he sober and working a program before you started dating if you dont mind my asking. When I first started attending Al-anon they promptly told me that I could not date anyone that did not have a year of soberity (strongly suggested) and that I needed to take a year off and work on me. Im told that the mind is still in a fog and some of the old timers told me they would suggest 5 years soberity.
You might want to think about taking in some Al-anon meetings, If your looking for bottles you might be spending too much time working on his soberity then working on yours ...
Remember this is just my thought process.... take what you want and leave the rest.
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Join Date: May 2006
Location: Louisiana
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Cynay suggestion about those Al-Anon meetings sound really helpful. Might help you gain some insight to what you will be living with if you do decide to marry. Even if they do get sober, there is always that thought in the back of our minds, how long will it last, is it for real, or at least it is for me - that is why I continue to go to those meetings so that I don't get caught up in that thinking and keep the focus on me instead of my AH.
My recovery, serenity and inner peace becomes my focus and my world becomes a better place.
One Day At a Time,
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My recovery, serenity and inner peace becomes my focus and my world becomes a better place.
One Day At a Time,
Rita
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