StandingStrong

Ya know, one of my most often thoughts about my AH is that he may someday become the man that I'd hoped he'd become, he may treat a new woman the same way he treated me in the beginning, he may even become more than I ever imagined! And how sorry I'd be for not hanging in there just a little bit longer! And how dare he give to someone else what should have been mine!!!!

But now....I read your post and the above part I quoted caught my attention.

Do you see something familiar? She's trying to control him, trying to change him, trying to get him to do what she wants him to do. And I'm sure it's with the best of intentions - just as we once had with our A's. But you see, it's just the beginning of the dance they are about to do. Only time will tell if he's truly serious - but more than likely, if she's the one that is pushing for his recovery, his recovery isn't serious. It's just part of the dance and show.

Live

Wow, great insight Standing Strong!

sailgirl

Dear Katie77, I am truly sorry you are feeling so bad and I know the feeling of why wasn't I enough to make him seek help. But.... as it's been stated a million times, only he can choose to get sober and he can only do it for himself. Hang in there and remember this has nothing to do with you; only him.
Sailgirl

Minx1969

(just an FYI friends..this is an old thread..2005)

But still good info..

pmaslan

thanks Minx...I was wondering why so much emphasis on something
over a year old....

giz

Minx,

LOL! It's me; I'm a keyword searcher. I've always read forums that way so all sorts of threads come up.

SR is what helped me get through the extremely tough parts of this relationship. There is so much wisdom, support and to see the same exact situations in some one else's life was comforting to an extent I've never felt before.

*beaming*