elizabeth1979

When I am upset, I read alot. From Codependant No More:

Myths About Anger:

Its not Okay to feel angry

Anger is a Waste of Time and Energy

Good and nice people don't get angry

We shouldn't feel angry when we do

We'll lose control and go crazy if we get angry

People will go away if we get angry with them

Other people should never feel anger towards us

If others get angry with us, we must have done something wrong

If other people are angry with us, we made them feel that way and we're responsible for their feelings

If we feel angry, someone else made us feel that way and that person is responsible for our feelings

If we feel angry with someoen, the relationship is over, and that person has to go away

If we feel angry with someone, that person has to change, so we don't feel angry anymore

If we feel angry, we have to hit someone or something

If we feel angry, we have to shout and holler

If we feel angry with someone, it means we don't love them anymore

If someoen feels angry with us, ity means that person doesn't love us anymore

Anger is a sinful emotion

Its okay to feel anger, only when we can justify our feelings

bahookie

My problem is what do you do with the anger?

Most of my new methods of dealing the with the huge suppressed anger I had, seem to be dealing with the things that would have made me angry in the first place - so that I don't build it up.
Still haven't a scooby what to do when it creeps up on me!

J
Ps sorry that didn't make the best sense, I'm premenstrual and my head doesn't work.

Cap3

Thanks for sharring,
anger for me,was somewhat like saying to the world,why or why aren't you more like...me..If you were more like me,then i wouldn't be pissed of at you,,lol.