Scared to death
Member
Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 4,955
Hey Penny.
Come on over to the Friends and Family board and the Naranon board. Lots of people there who understand what you're going through.
It's hard not to enable them when they seem so needy and vulnerable.
But we can do it, with practice.
Come on over to the Friends and Family board and the Naranon board. Lots of people there who understand what you're going through.
It's hard not to enable them when they seem so needy and vulnerable.
But we can do it, with practice.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: USA
Posts: 346
Live your life as you did when he was gone. Be cordial, use your manners, but that's it. That's how you don't enable someone. You make them responsible for their own choices and the ramifications of those choices. And he's been learning how to do that in rehab so let him fly as an adult so he continues to get better.
Meetings Coordinator
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Detroit, Michigan
Posts: 374
PENNY lots of good suggestions here. however i really dont have any to offer since i was the user in my house however i will pray for you and your son. keep checking back and look into those forums suggested above.
Cruelty-Free
Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Body: South Florida Heart: Yosemite National Park
Posts: 914
I know I'm enabling when I am doing for someone (especially an adult) what they are capable of doing for themselves.
Have you gotten any suggestions from the counselors at your son's rehab? They've definitely heard this question before...
Al-Anon can help!
Have you gotten any suggestions from the counselors at your son's rehab? They've definitely heard this question before...
Al-Anon can help!
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