Agree with all of this - kids are resilient. We moved every 3 years with 2 kids one on the spectrum and they both gained life long skills from these moves, myself included. Personally I think living with an active alcoholic father is much harder to deal with than learning to make new friends or learn a new routine. You also can’t discount that your boys may feel your anxiety and might be taking that on. (Ps- all learned the HARD WAY on my part)