i HAVE! And it’s good news!!! I should have the keys in a weeks time and a move date! It’s finally happening!

AH has started to be more moody .. so it’s feeling like a very tetchy time right now. He’s trying to pick fights. Gaslighting me into rows, being less careful about how he speaks to us. His drinking has increased. Most if the doubts I had about leaving are disappearing, he’s really not giving me anything to cling onto, there’s no effort to fight for his family, not even once felt it important enough to ask his wife of 15 years to reconsider leaving. It’s hurtful that he’s just going to sit back and watch us go and that he’s clearly bitter about my decision, but I’m relieved he hasn’t made it more difficult.

It’s really time to go.