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06-19-2017, 03:18 PM

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Mpie9

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Originally Posted by FireSprite

And when it's been my turn I have left people who refuse to get into the car for their ride home. I will not fight with drunks in parking lots at midnight & I'm not apologizing for it - IMO, THEY are the ones being disrespectful. When they call me the next day & complain that they "can't believe you left me like that!" I tell them I can't believe they have so little respect that they put me in the position to choose... shuts them right up & I've never had to leave the same person twice.

THANK YOU. I have been feeling guilty about this for years. We never really even talked about it like adults. I think I apologized and she might have too, but I viewed it as seriously compromising her safety by leaving her alone- as a female. What if something happened? I get this is the detaching part of codependency- don't enable and let them fall down. Many people told me what you said, so i have to continue with that mindset granted I don't even want to place myself in these types of situations anymore.