Coming to terms with divorce...
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How different it would be if our first choice was _I will get a divorce._ The first time and not look back.
But I got so invested and tried to change him and then learned it's about changing myself. I don't think it's ever an easy decision but when all else falls into no change, then divorce becomes the accept marriage and live with this or there's s another way to live life.
But I got so invested and tried to change him and then learned it's about changing myself. I don't think it's ever an easy decision but when all else falls into no change, then divorce becomes the accept marriage and live with this or there's s another way to live life.
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Join Date: Jul 2016
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You really put the crux of the Codie dilemma into words...
Do I do something to let MYSELF down?, or
Do I do something that is good for me but MAKES ME FEEL like I am letting everyone else down?
Your kids and family love you and want you to be happy, and a happy mother IS what is best for the kids.
I have a fairly unhappy mother. It does damage, and it teaches us to be martyrs, it teaches us to never seek help, and it teaches us that we are doing a good thing by sacrificing ourselves for other people. Although our lives become our own responsibility, I believe an unhappy parent can lay the foundation for codie or addicted kids.
I hope you take care of yourself - you can show your kids that building the life you want is a healthy way to live!!
Do I do something to let MYSELF down?, or
Do I do something that is good for me but MAKES ME FEEL like I am letting everyone else down?
Your kids and family love you and want you to be happy, and a happy mother IS what is best for the kids.
I have a fairly unhappy mother. It does damage, and it teaches us to be martyrs, it teaches us to never seek help, and it teaches us that we are doing a good thing by sacrificing ourselves for other people. Although our lives become our own responsibility, I believe an unhappy parent can lay the foundation for codie or addicted kids.
I hope you take care of yourself - you can show your kids that building the life you want is a healthy way to live!!
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