Nothing About This Has Been Easy
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Nothing About This Has Been Easy
Hi,
Nothing about my life over the past few years has been easy! When I look over the past year, so many huge life changes have happened. Looking back, not sure where the strength came from.
I filed for divorce from my AH 15 months ago. I'm still married. I had my first and final divorce hearing over 5 weeks ago! I haven't heard any decision from the court.
I'm getting a little frustrated. I need this to help my financial position, but more than anything for closure to a chapter of my life.
My AH continues to live his life with no big life changes. He just changed the woman he lives with. Still lives in our home, and works in our business, even though he shows no income! And I'm assuming by the way he looked in court continued to drink.
I'm trying so hard to focus on the positive things in my life, which there are many. I know my life is much better and more peaceful without my AH. I'm feeling very grateful that I got out when I did.
But there is still a piece of me missing. For me to be able to put this truely behind me, I need to be divorced! I know I've been physically divorced from my AH for a long time, but mentally I need it to be legal!
I talked to my lawyer today. He feels it shouldn't be too much longer.
Everyday that goes by is just a reminder of what my life used to be, and what my life could have been.
I just wish something in my life would be easy for a change!
I am so ready for this nightmare to be over! Even though I know, whatever the court decides my AH and my life is still gonna be intertwined for at least another year!
Thank you all for listening!
Z
Nothing about my life over the past few years has been easy! When I look over the past year, so many huge life changes have happened. Looking back, not sure where the strength came from.
I filed for divorce from my AH 15 months ago. I'm still married. I had my first and final divorce hearing over 5 weeks ago! I haven't heard any decision from the court.
I'm getting a little frustrated. I need this to help my financial position, but more than anything for closure to a chapter of my life.
My AH continues to live his life with no big life changes. He just changed the woman he lives with. Still lives in our home, and works in our business, even though he shows no income! And I'm assuming by the way he looked in court continued to drink.
I'm trying so hard to focus on the positive things in my life, which there are many. I know my life is much better and more peaceful without my AH. I'm feeling very grateful that I got out when I did.
But there is still a piece of me missing. For me to be able to put this truely behind me, I need to be divorced! I know I've been physically divorced from my AH for a long time, but mentally I need it to be legal!
I talked to my lawyer today. He feels it shouldn't be too much longer.
Everyday that goes by is just a reminder of what my life used to be, and what my life could have been.
I just wish something in my life would be easy for a change!
I am so ready for this nightmare to be over! Even though I know, whatever the court decides my AH and my life is still gonna be intertwined for at least another year!
Thank you all for listening!
Z
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FWIW, I think you've been doing GREAT. The final details will be settled soon. Don't be surprised if it feels like an anticlimax. 
But it WILL be good to be able to put it all finally behind you.
Keep hangin' in!
But it WILL be good to be able to put it all finally behind you.Keep hangin' in!
Sounds like you have been on an emotional roller coaster. Hoping you will find peace in your life soon.
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