redatlanta

My guess here - and its been stated before - is that there is a history with your RAH and his parents that you are not aware of. The MIL sounds like a person who has been burned more than once by her addict child. "Been there and done that and not doing it again". I wonder how many times she thought it was the "last" time only to have "it" happen again..............

The remedy I see here is time. I think your RAH is going to have to remain sober and in recovery for a really long time before his mother might think to take the walls down, and allow herself a close relationship.

One problem is, its a little hard when you dont know for sure if it will strike again

Yep.

hopeful4

You walk on eggshells waiting for the other shoe to drop. Only you can decide if you can find peace in a life like that.

Hugs.