Taking the Bait (blindness)
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Taking the Bait (blindness)
Lately I've been in a situation where I've had to ask for help with case management and finding housing from people outside of recovery. It's been hard. These professionals in social services have manipulated me to no ends, it seems
one example is I was working with a new case manager/housing specialist and for some unknown reason she started playing games. Offering to do things then not following through then calling me days later asking me to call right away, and when I'd return her call she wouldn't return mine again, for days. A week would go by and she'd call me again giving no reason and saying Call me right away and when I'd call her back she'd be in the background telling people to say she's on another line, and never call me back.
Darn it, I'm trying to trust myself and watch for red flags and cut people like this off before they can do this.
I think my part is needing something and being taken advantage of because of that. But this keeps repeating itself.
Are people just sick out there? Or am I not supposed to need help? Maybe HP is trying to tell me I'm not giving enough?
I am very positive with these people even in the difficult situation I'm in. Maybe I don't need these peoples help?
Any insight as to why I might be attracting this and what to do about it would be very much appreciated!
Please excuse any iPhone typos.
one example is I was working with a new case manager/housing specialist and for some unknown reason she started playing games. Offering to do things then not following through then calling me days later asking me to call right away, and when I'd return her call she wouldn't return mine again, for days. A week would go by and she'd call me again giving no reason and saying Call me right away and when I'd call her back she'd be in the background telling people to say she's on another line, and never call me back.
Darn it, I'm trying to trust myself and watch for red flags and cut people like this off before they can do this.
I think my part is needing something and being taken advantage of because of that. But this keeps repeating itself.
Are people just sick out there? Or am I not supposed to need help? Maybe HP is trying to tell me I'm not giving enough?
I am very positive with these people even in the difficult situation I'm in. Maybe I don't need these peoples help?
Any insight as to why I might be attracting this and what to do about it would be very much appreciated!
Please excuse any iPhone typos.
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I would call her supervisor and explain there seems to be a communication problem, and can you be assigned to a new person. Be polite and to the point.
That is just my suggestion. My X actually works in social services, and I know that lots of times people asked to be assigned to other people for various reasons. Those that were demanding and ugly about it were not, those that had a valid reason and could communicate it were.
Good luck, I am sorry you are going through that.
That is just my suggestion. My X actually works in social services, and I know that lots of times people asked to be assigned to other people for various reasons. Those that were demanding and ugly about it were not, those that had a valid reason and could communicate it were.
Good luck, I am sorry you are going through that.
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It's interesting. What came to me today was my sponsor saying to me when I asked her once why someone did something like this, she said, "Maybe that's just what people do."
Looking deeper at how I should respond, I realize that God is in charge, not me. He is orchestrating everything.
I'm not supposed to work with that person. In fact, I went to see someone else today who was incredible. Responsive, thoughtful. Actually produced.
Going to her boss or Mgmt would be a reaction. It's just what she wants. And I ain't givin' it to her.
This is when I walk away and dust off my feet being grateful for another spiritual lesson.
She'll call again at some point.
I won't need to answer. I got the growth.
Looking deeper at how I should respond, I realize that God is in charge, not me. He is orchestrating everything.
I'm not supposed to work with that person. In fact, I went to see someone else today who was incredible. Responsive, thoughtful. Actually produced.
Going to her boss or Mgmt would be a reaction. It's just what she wants. And I ain't givin' it to her.
This is when I walk away and dust off my feet being grateful for another spiritual lesson.
She'll call again at some point.
I won't need to answer. I got the growth.
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There it is....
She called again this afternoon.
I had returned her last call 5 days ago.
She said she was going on vacation next week and hope she hears from me today.
She didn't. And won't again.
Why would I keep calling someone who can't help me?
Send me a postcard....lol
She called again this afternoon.
I had returned her last call 5 days ago.
She said she was going on vacation next week and hope she hears from me today.
She didn't. And won't again.
Why would I keep calling someone who can't help me?
Send me a postcard....lol
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