Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
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Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
My ABF called me today. We haven't spoken for few weeks because he asked for time and space to work on his recovery (which I gladly agreed to). Anyway, he asked me if he could come over tomorrow and pick up a few things. I said that was fine, and asked him how he was doing. He said he was ok, and we engaged in a short but pleasant conversation. I asked him if he was still in AA, and he became angry...said it was none of my business, but yes! I said I was sorry - just wanted to make sure he was doing well. He said "I'm fine!" (angrily) and I said good, I am praying for you...and we said good bye.
I was shocked by this outburst since we were talking pleasantly a few seconds prior. Is this "normal'' for someone in recovery? I've never dealt with this before. I have been attending Al Anon meetings and we did discuss how sometimes we need to "be still" because there is no point in arguing with the alcoholic. I feel bad that I ticked him off but, on the other hand, I was only trying to find out how he was doing. I didn't ask for details! How do you all deal with this?
Any feedback would be greatly appreciated!
I was shocked by this outburst since we were talking pleasantly a few seconds prior. Is this "normal'' for someone in recovery? I've never dealt with this before. I have been attending Al Anon meetings and we did discuss how sometimes we need to "be still" because there is no point in arguing with the alcoholic. I feel bad that I ticked him off but, on the other hand, I was only trying to find out how he was doing. I didn't ask for details! How do you all deal with this?
Any feedback would be greatly appreciated!
Personally, sometimes I would like to take the "drinking" out of the picture. How was he before this, was he the same push/pull. Was he still having rages? Do you feel, or have you ever felt that you need to "walk on eggshells" around him?
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amy
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amy
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Amy, I'm not sure because he was drinking throughout our entire relationship. He hid it very well. I really didn't notice the amount he was drinking until I found the beer cans hidden in the dresser drawer. I suspect the anger did come from the drinking, or the times when he wanted to drink but couldn't (when he was called out to work, when his daughter was there, etc.). And yes, I was walking on eggshells during those times.
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