why cant I have a g*damn normal family?
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why cant I have a g*damn normal family?
So as many of you know, I am planning to seperate from RAH for at least 3 months so I can get my head together. We met with our pastor on Friday and he even agreed it would be a good move and just as he needed detox and rehab for the alcohol, I need a detox from him too and a month will not cut it.
So my plan was to move into my unoccupied childhood home. Except it's under renovation and the floors are not yet done as expected because my dad wasn't happy with Tue job the flooring people did. The plan now is to move in with them and supervise the work at the other house, finish up painting in some of the closets and refinishing a headboard. Fml.
My dad is an active alcoholic and is fully in and invested to the victim "look how horrible my life is" role. I don't think I want to LIVE with him for any length of time. That would defeat thepurpose. I don't want to commit to a 1 year lease anywhere either because I don't know where I will be in a year. And plus when discussing RAHs abuse of me, he had the balls to say "well maybe the guy was lit". AS THATS A F#$@?ING EXCUSE! OMG why can't I just have a nice, supportive family. I NEED this time from RAH but having to live with my father is just OMG no.
So my plan was to move into my unoccupied childhood home. Except it's under renovation and the floors are not yet done as expected because my dad wasn't happy with Tue job the flooring people did. The plan now is to move in with them and supervise the work at the other house, finish up painting in some of the closets and refinishing a headboard. Fml.
My dad is an active alcoholic and is fully in and invested to the victim "look how horrible my life is" role. I don't think I want to LIVE with him for any length of time. That would defeat thepurpose. I don't want to commit to a 1 year lease anywhere either because I don't know where I will be in a year. And plus when discussing RAHs abuse of me, he had the balls to say "well maybe the guy was lit". AS THATS A F#$@?ING EXCUSE! OMG why can't I just have a nice, supportive family. I NEED this time from RAH but having to live with my father is just OMG no.
Normal is just a setting on the dryer.
Really, I feel you. I would rather get a root canal, scoop elephant poop, or go vacation on Antarctica than live with my AM again. I never had the supportive, seemingly Rockwell family, either. Even just to give a little bit of validation of *some* part of my life would have been great.
Really, I feel you. I would rather get a root canal, scoop elephant poop, or go vacation on Antarctica than live with my AM again. I never had the supportive, seemingly Rockwell family, either. Even just to give a little bit of validation of *some* part of my life would have been great.
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Terp, I would sooner live in my car than spend a single night under the same roof of either of my parents. Just not happening. I wouldn't share the details of my marital problems with either of them either. I just never had that kind of relationship with them and never will. I am sorry you are going through this but it is probably best if you find a short term lease somewhere.
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Well if for whatever reason I do have to stay there any length of time........I work nights. I would rarely see him and days off I would be working on the other place........so that would make is slightly more tolerable. Unfortunately I live in the MOST EXPENSIVE housing market in the US aside from NYC and parts of California. I've been looking at rooms for rent. Most places want good credit and mine is fubar from the debt and subsequent bankruptcy RAH got us in.
Well if for whatever reason I do have to stay there any length of time........I work nights. I would rarely see him and days off I would be working on the other place........so that would make is slightly more tolerable. Unfortunately I live in the MOST EXPENSIVE housing market in the US aside from NYC and parts of California. I've been looking at rooms for rent. Most places want good credit and mine is fubar from the debt and subsequent bankruptcy RAH got us in.
I also understand not wanting to live with another alcoholic, there's no way I would ever have wanted to live with my dad when he was living. He was worse than my husband! Hugs to you and good luck in your new endeavor, wherever that may lead you even if there are bumps in the road along the way!
Can't they just finish one damn room so that you can stay there???
I'm sorry, I've lived in houses while they were being renovated, and quite honestly, this sounds like a ruse from your parents. Unless they really are redoing ALL the floors in ALL the rooms at the same time... AND the plumbing and electricity...
I'm sorry, I've lived in houses while they were being renovated, and quite honestly, this sounds like a ruse from your parents. Unless they really are redoing ALL the floors in ALL the rooms at the same time... AND the plumbing and electricity...
Can't they just finish one damn room so that you can stay there???
I'm sorry, I've lived in houses while they were being renovated, and quite honestly, this sounds like a ruse from your parents. Unless they really are redoing ALL the floors in ALL the rooms at the same time... AND the plumbing and electricity...
I'm sorry, I've lived in houses while they were being renovated, and quite honestly, this sounds like a ruse from your parents. Unless they really are redoing ALL the floors in ALL the rooms at the same time... AND the plumbing and electricity...
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You can decide now to create a healthy -- better word than normal -- family with all the actions you're taking. Congratulations on having the strengths to do what's necessary to have a good life.
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Can't they just finish one damn room so that you can stay there???
I'm sorry, I've lived in houses while they were being renovated, and quite honestly, this sounds like a ruse from your parents. Unless they really are redoing ALL the floors in ALL the rooms at the same time... AND the plumbing and electricity...
I'm sorry, I've lived in houses while they were being renovated, and quite honestly, this sounds like a ruse from your parents. Unless they really are redoing ALL the floors in ALL the rooms at the same time... AND the plumbing and electricity...
I would be perfectly happy to live in my old room and supervise the work and paint the closets and refinish my old headboard (although, living in that room again is sorta creepy. My uncle died in that room not this past thanksgiving but the thanksgiving before). If it comes down to it, I have found a few rooms to rent on craigslist that look promising.....but then again you never know who's a serial killer lol
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