Separated AH getting help
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I'm a touch blown away by your resolve, iamthird. Once upon a time you would have gone running back, elated to be hearing these words & promises.
But you aren't Girlfriend, you are standing STRONG and independent & seeing the forest for the trees.
Your story is one of the most heroic here on this board, IMO, you have overcome such incredible obstacles & not just survived, but THRIVED.
I seriously broke out into tears of happiness & stood up & gave you a standing ovation when I read this thread because you are a true rock star in recovery, a model to emulate.
I hope he does mean it, I hope he does get sober & turn everything around for DD because she deserves nothing less.
((((SO MANY HUGS))))
But you aren't Girlfriend, you are standing STRONG and independent & seeing the forest for the trees.
Your story is one of the most heroic here on this board, IMO, you have overcome such incredible obstacles & not just survived, but THRIVED.
I seriously broke out into tears of happiness & stood up & gave you a standing ovation when I read this thread because you are a true rock star in recovery, a model to emulate.
I hope he does mean it, I hope he does get sober & turn everything around for DD because she deserves nothing less.
((((SO MANY HUGS))))
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Iamthird 
I hope for his sake and for the sake of your children, he does decide to grab hold of recovery with everything he has!
Sending you hugs of support and prayers for peace. Because I know if he does seek recovery, it will ultimately benefit the work of co-parenting, too!
I hope for his sake and for the sake of your children, he does decide to grab hold of recovery with everything he has!
Sending you hugs of support and prayers for peace. Because I know if he does seek recovery, it will ultimately benefit the work of co-parenting, too!
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Firespite, thank you so much. I really value your opinion. You are one of the posters here who has been such a support to me. I know I still have work to do but it feels so good to be able to have some self respect. Hahaha!!!
Seren, exactly my thoughts. DD6 is still young so I do continue to pray for her that he does follow through and get it together because it would be the best thing for them both and me because I do have to interact with him for her. I have been with him when he attempted sobriety before and it was quite an emotional ride and one I defintely cannot engage in while I am still emotionally healing from the last few years as well.
Just as all of us codies do, he is finally coming back around like I had probably dreamed of many times. I just feel differently. I still love him very much and want the best for him, even aside from DD6. I would even go as far to say that I am still in love with him. However what I posses now is the discernment to know that the choices I make must be made based on my values, beliefs and best interest of my child. A little piece of my heart will always belong to him I guess but as I stand today the relationship with myself, God and the respect of my daughter take precedence over anything else.
Seren, exactly my thoughts. DD6 is still young so I do continue to pray for her that he does follow through and get it together because it would be the best thing for them both and me because I do have to interact with him for her. I have been with him when he attempted sobriety before and it was quite an emotional ride and one I defintely cannot engage in while I am still emotionally healing from the last few years as well.
Just as all of us codies do, he is finally coming back around like I had probably dreamed of many times. I just feel differently. I still love him very much and want the best for him, even aside from DD6. I would even go as far to say that I am still in love with him. However what I posses now is the discernment to know that the choices I make must be made based on my values, beliefs and best interest of my child. A little piece of my heart will always belong to him I guess but as I stand today the relationship with myself, God and the respect of my daughter take precedence over anything else.
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Originally Posted by iamthird 
I still love him very much and want the best for him, even aside from DD6. I would even go as far to say that I am still in love with him. However what I posses now is the discernment to know that the choices I make must be made based on my values, beliefs and best interest of my child. A little piece of my heart will always belong to him I guess but as I stand today the relationship with myself, God and the respect of my daughter take precedence over anything else.
Your Recovery is really showing, thanks for making me feel all warm & fuzzy this morning!
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