Catherine628

I wanted to come back and add that years before AH's drinking escalated to its current epic proportions we fell into unhealthy communication patterns. He was isolating and working long hours and unbeknownst to me at the time drinking. I would put off having any conversations about my feelings because I didn't want to ruin the precious few good times we had. Or I would convince myself that the problems were all in my head. So I know for me my anger is pretty deeply rooted. It's amazing to me now that I thought we had a good marriage until his drinking hit end stage. I think the decline in our communication was just gradual at the beginning and I missed or denied it.