wholelottarosie

Hi, thought I'd swing by and have a look around and update you all. It's been 8 months since I left xabf. My counselling has finished and I feel like I am moving forward all the time. I have the odd day where I feel a bit down and miss the sober bf but these times are becoming less frequent.
A friend of mine told me that he was seen in town during the day drunk, looking scruffy and smelling. He also is behind with his rent. These things don't fill me with glee, I just feel it's a shame but his choice. And it makes me feel glad I left when I did. Who knows what it would have done to me. We live in the same town but up to now have never bumped into each other which I am grateful for.
Tomorrow me and my family are going away for a few days which I am looking forward to. These days I focus on my friends and family, and do the things I enjoy doing.
Anyone who is fresh out of a relationship or considering leaving, it is hard-but turn all that attention you give to your alcoholic partner back on yourself and take one day at a time. Time really is a great healer.

dandylion

wholelottarosie.....thanks so much for taking your time to give us an update!!

I think it is real important to get updates on how our old friends are doing....

It is so great to hear how well things are working out for you......

And....it gives hope for many who are still in the painful parts of their journey...

dandylion

Sungrl

All I can say is Amen to that! What she said and more. My mood has elevated, my anxiety has diminished and my self esteem is right were it should be. All because I let go.

SeriousKarma

Thanks Wholelottarosie. I't's bittersweet, I know, but I'm very happy for you.

Swing by more often and tell us how you got to this healthy place.

hopeful4

Hello! Thank you for the update! It's good to hear from you!

Pia

Yes please do swing by and keep us posted.

Dojang

You have no idea how much I need to see your post today. It has been 8 days since I broke up with my A. I have gone NC, but we both work for the same agency, so he can still email me through work. He has been saying anything he can think of to crush me. There is NO chance of me going back to him, I am in counseling and working very hard on my issues. I long to be where you are.
Thank you again, for reminding me of what's waiting for me.

Sungrl

If you guys work together, print the emails and take them to HR.

Harassing emails sent to you at work, form a coworker, is not good.

Dojang

I will report him if it continues. He was demoted several months ago due to his drinking. If I report him, he will definitely get fired. His job is of no concern to me, but he does have 2 children that I care deeply about, and then he wouldn't be able to support them. I warned him, so if he continues, he will have to deal with the consequences.

Sungrl

Fair enough

suncatcher

Thank you Wholelottarosie! I needed to read that today. I have been on the right course where you are now but it seems just when I'm doing well xabf starts calling and trying to reel me back in. Sometimes I find myself starting to slip back into codependent ways but I catch myself and detach when I feel myself slipping. I'm so happy you are doing well and thank you for reminding me to keep the focus on my recovery.