Carlotta

When I heard that Al-Anon was a program in which we learn to keep the focus on ourselves, I wondered what
others would think of me if I acted on that principle?
Surely they would think me inconsiderate, thoughtless, and uncaring. Those were my complaints about the alcoholics in my life! I didn’t want to be that way.
Instead, I tried to do things for others that seemed loving and generous, even when I didn’t want to do them.
I couldn’t understand why I so often grew resentful after such actions. My efforts to be selfless by trying to please everyone but myself weren’t working. The focus was on their response rather than on what seemed right for me to do. There was nothing unconditional about this kind of giving. My Sponsor helped me to see that if I paid more attention to myself and to doing what I thought was best, I would be free to give without strings attached. Then I could truly be generous.

Today’s Reminder

“We are best able to help others when we ourselves
have learned the way to achieve serenity.”

The Twelve Steps and Traditions

honeypig

This is so very accurate for me. Thanks for posting, Carlotta!