TakingCharge999

Just an update to write that after a major codie lapse where This Guy Was The Answer to the World's Problems, I am feeling much better.

This one and a toxic coworker have been 2 recent examples where I struggle but in the endd I am able to keep my sanity and keep doing my own thing and enjoying my afternoon.. Yay!! Before, things like this would have destroyed me for weeks..

TakingCharge999

I am feeling the need to contact this guy again and continue the drama

TakingCharge999

I know better than this

The evolved part of my self is telling me to Get A Life.

Manmust

Listen to the evolved self. Don't start something with anyone that doesn't know how to start. There are much better guys out there.

pattyG

Take charge,

Delete, delete, delete! His number! You deserve so much better, don't even think of it!

Recovering2

This is like feeling the need to have a drink. Do what you have to do to avoid contacting this guy. Delete his number first thing, go to an AlAnon meeting, keep posting. The feeling will pass eventually.

Redheadsusie

Deleting his number is a great idea. You deserve so much better - ~ This too shall pass.......... Hugs to you.............

TakingCharge999

Yesterday R. called me stating he misses me and if we could be friends again. I said yes.

This time away taught me we won't be anything more than online friends, but I am fine with it.

I feel better and am glad I kept no contact... two weeks away helped me sort out my ideas and now what to expect and what not to expect. I am back to therapy and by now its clear to me that healing will take years, but at least I am on the recovery path now

I read somewhere that liking someone similar to the father figure is just how the human psyche works. Some people grow up withot a solid male figure and can't assimilate the male part within themselves. Feeling attracted to father figures is how the psyche tries to feel 'complete'. Knowing this made me feel less insane.