This IS a lawyer's job, right?
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Originally Posted by StarCat 
Restraining orders typically say that the other person can't send messages via someone else, too, right? So following through with his request would mean that YOU were violating the restraining order as well as him, yes?
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It all boils down to the fact that your father refuses to accept that your mother is divorcing him. Well, that's just too bad. Him blackmailing you in an attempt to get you to intercede on his behalf with your mother is wrong. You can either continue to deal with it, or do whatever is necessary to get yourself to a point where you do not need his financial help. Otherwise, nothing is going to change. It's totally up to you.
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Originally Posted by StarCat
Restraining orders typically say that the other person can't send messages via someone else, too, right? So following through with his request would mean that YOU were violating the restraining order as well as him, yes?
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Originally Posted by sparklingeyes
Legit, as in they will need to pay $400 for one message.
Having a check bounce and needing to spend $400 to ask another person to fix the problem you caused, is the natural consequence of financial carelessness. As is getting a bad mark on your credit report. There it are worse tragedies; your parents will live if happens to them.
Never interfere with the natural consequences other people have brought down upon themselves.
I am concerned about your father calling you names. This is abuse and it's damaging. You might want to rethink your dependence on your father and the money and phone and whatever he gives you. It's better to live an abuse free life with a tracfone than be beholden to an abuser but carrying an iphone.
In the meantime, while you figure it out, I'd just be unavailable to both parents.
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With a restraining order I do not think he is supposed to contact her through you- if nobody fixes his problems- who's problems will they be ? Just say Dad- this is your problem. They react like the age they started using- my XAH was about 12yrs. old (emotionally)......AND try applying step 3. <3
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