Enablers H*ll!
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Wow, a lot of posts today are reminding me of things I posted long ago. Here is another. Seems there is a mentality of scarcity going on. Truth is, relationships are easy to come by. Maybe I should start a new thread about abundance.....
Originally Posted by LaTeeDa 
When I first read the book "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck, the following hit me like a ton of bricks:
"Look, allowing yourself to be dependent on another person is the worst possible thing you can do to yourself. You would be better off being dependent on herion. As long as you have a supply of it, heroin will never let you down; if it's there, it will always make you happy. But if you expect another person to make you happy, you'll be endlessly disappointed."
One of the uncomfortable paradoxes in life is that as long as you cannot be happy by yourself, you will never find the right person to be with. It's not easy, but if you truly want a good relationship with someone else, you have to have a good relationship with yourself first.
L
"Look, allowing yourself to be dependent on another person is the worst possible thing you can do to yourself. You would be better off being dependent on herion. As long as you have a supply of it, heroin will never let you down; if it's there, it will always make you happy. But if you expect another person to make you happy, you'll be endlessly disappointed."
One of the uncomfortable paradoxes in life is that as long as you cannot be happy by yourself, you will never find the right person to be with. It's not easy, but if you truly want a good relationship with someone else, you have to have a good relationship with yourself first.
L
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I much prefer this definition of a soulmate:
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
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