Suicide threats starting up, how do I stay strong...
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Just an update, AH left me a voicemail late last night saying he's back at the psych hospital. More cash out of my pocket, is all I could think, how hateful is that? I don't know if I'll be able to go wholly NC since we still have papers to sign for the separation, but he's done a really good job of convincing me that NC the only way to preserve my sanity. I could not be making this stand without you folks. Two months ago I was still enmeshed and totally sucked in. Now freedom, terrifying and new though it is, is actually on the horizon. What a change...
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I don't know the whole story, but I'm guessing he showed up at the ER after overdosing and told them he was still suicidal, at which point they admitted him, possibly involuntarily.
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I've been down this road many times. You know what you did wrong and how to handle it better in a few ways-- dont' beat yourself up.
I got tired of this with my wife so I told her that the next time she threatened suicide I would call the police. I did, they took her to the hospital where she was forced to stay until she detoxed, and then the sent her a bill for $1,000. The ambulance was expensive too. In my case, she never did it again because it turned out she was bluffing the whole time.
Of course, sometimes they aren't bluffing, but I would have never known if I hadn't set a boundary and then enforced it.
Take care,
Cyranoak
I got tired of this with my wife so I told her that the next time she threatened suicide I would call the police. I did, they took her to the hospital where she was forced to stay until she detoxed, and then the sent her a bill for $1,000. The ambulance was expensive too. In my case, she never did it again because it turned out she was bluffing the whole time.
Of course, sometimes they aren't bluffing, but I would have never known if I hadn't set a boundary and then enforced it.
Take care,
Cyranoak
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I've called the police on many of these, and the only bad side is that I get stuck with the $500 or more bill. This time I'm not speaking to him during his hospital stay and I feel so much less anxious. Even if he runs up more bills (he's on my insurance til the separation is final), it's better than having him here.
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