Mother of 4, looking for peace
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Mother of 4, looking for peace
Not sure where to start.
20 years of marriage to AH. Four kids, 16 -11yo. I have had enough. I am so ready to leave. The problem, I have LUPUS and a slew of other health problems and can't work. I talked to a lawyer. Where I live I can get alimony along with child support, but only for a few years. Also, I'm not sure how to leave. I can't talk to my AH. I will only talk to him when he is sober. I never see him sober. He is very high functiong and has been so for about 7 years. I'm also afraid he will fight for custody. We live near his family and they are supportive but I don't think anyone would take us in. Does anyone have an idea I haven't thought of? I just hate how unfair this is to my kids. He thinks I should be grateful that he 'takes care of me.' ie: I don't work. I think my health would improve if I left, but I don't know if it will improve enough for me to work.
I appreciate this forum very much. It helps so much to know others can understand the pain and sadness one person can drag down the lives of so many.
20 years of marriage to AH. Four kids, 16 -11yo. I have had enough. I am so ready to leave. The problem, I have LUPUS and a slew of other health problems and can't work. I talked to a lawyer. Where I live I can get alimony along with child support, but only for a few years. Also, I'm not sure how to leave. I can't talk to my AH. I will only talk to him when he is sober. I never see him sober. He is very high functiong and has been so for about 7 years. I'm also afraid he will fight for custody. We live near his family and they are supportive but I don't think anyone would take us in. Does anyone have an idea I haven't thought of? I just hate how unfair this is to my kids. He thinks I should be grateful that he 'takes care of me.' ie: I don't work. I think my health would improve if I left, but I don't know if it will improve enough for me to work.
I appreciate this forum very much. It helps so much to know others can understand the pain and sadness one person can drag down the lives of so many.
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Hello QueenBee, Welcome to SR!!
I'm so sorry about your situation, but glad you did speak to an attorney. You might try calling the local women's shelter to see if they can provide you with any leads to resources for housing and so on.
You could also contact the medicaid office and find out what you may qualify for as far as disability benefits.
Keep posting here whenever you need to vent or ask questions! We do understand!!
HG
I'm so sorry about your situation, but glad you did speak to an attorney. You might try calling the local women's shelter to see if they can provide you with any leads to resources for housing and so on.
You could also contact the medicaid office and find out what you may qualify for as far as disability benefits.
Keep posting here whenever you need to vent or ask questions! We do understand!!
HG
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hi queenbee-
since you asked for input, my thoughts are that if you can get alimony and child support, you are in a position to make your move.
i understand that it is only for a few years, but for now, perhaps focus on the short term goal of getting yourself and your four children into a safe, peaceful place.
the rest will sort itself out. who knows what the future holds? perhaps focus on a one year plan...and take it day by day after that...
as for your lupus, dr. robert morse, nd in orlando florida has had remarkable success treating it with fresh fruits and vegetables. check him out on youtube or you can call his office for free and they will advise you.
naive
since you asked for input, my thoughts are that if you can get alimony and child support, you are in a position to make your move.
i understand that it is only for a few years, but for now, perhaps focus on the short term goal of getting yourself and your four children into a safe, peaceful place.
the rest will sort itself out. who knows what the future holds? perhaps focus on a one year plan...and take it day by day after that...
as for your lupus, dr. robert morse, nd in orlando florida has had remarkable success treating it with fresh fruits and vegetables. check him out on youtube or you can call his office for free and they will advise you.
naive
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