quitforme79

My brother suffers with some pretty heavy psych issues and is no surprise an alcoholic. He was clean for a few months and doing so well..positive, got a job etc etc. He lives in a different state so we were chatting online tonight and then began the manic raves about how he will never fit into society, work is slavery (he quit his job) and hates his life. I asked if he was drinking again and he said yes. Due to some other responses I asked if he was going to kill himself and he said "hell no, are you crazy". Check. (If he said yes I was going to send 911 to his home). i then told him I loved him and that i hoped tomorrow he would find the courage to find his sobriety again. I just want to say that this is monumental for me. In the past i would've tried to convince him that life is not worthless etc etc I think I am finally at the point where I can love the addicts in my life from a distance (and believe me there are many) and love the one closest to me the most -myself. Thanks for listening!

Hanna

So how are you doing?

Seren

Sad to say I have had those conversations before where I felt I had to convince someone that life is worth living. I, too, finally decided that I was not powerful enough to do that for anyone.

It is sad, but your brother has to find that courage within himself.

I'm so glad you see that and what a fantastic job detaching with love!

Threshold

I am so sorry you are in that position with your brother. I know how uncomfortable and scary that situation is from both sides. I myself am in recovery, and I have been that crazy person. Now my boyfriend has relapsed and is that crazy person.

I do not want to hijack this thread, so please take this as a general question, and keep the focus on Quit.I know, first hand that no one can convince me that my life is worth living, and I refuse to get pulled into the argument game with my BF. But I do tell him facts, if we are in conversation. Such as, "no one loves me" ...'Your parents care very much", or "It's hopeless I'm too depressed." ... "There are medications that can help and you have insurance"

I don't spend hours at this "game" etc, but I do want to know if I am kidding myself and if doing as I've described is pretty much the same as "arguing".

As I type this, I am thinking I am kidding myself.

NYCDoglvr

One thing you can do is pray for him. Yes, it's very hard so my hat is off to you.