Son post op, A is MIA. Please send me strength.
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I have been thinking about this, and I agree that what HE wants isn't really pivotal. The focus should be on your child and his physical recovery from surgery.
Although son is asking for Daddy, Daddy is not in right frame of mind to spend time with son. Dad is angry, feels alienated and persecuted...
Your little boy needs you to protect him from Dad's moods, anger, and inability to cope. I wouldn't schedule any visits right now. Dad is likely to tell child that he's moving out, mean mommy is making him go...all that quacking that adults can tune out, but children have no defenses against.
I say, get H out with minimum of fuss, tend to child, and in a few weeks, sort out issues with AH.
In other words, put AH and his issues and his DRAMA on the back burner while you tend to your sick little one.
(((hugs)))
By email or through his parents, can you find out what A needs and have it taken to him.
Although son is asking for Daddy, Daddy is not in right frame of mind to spend time with son. Dad is angry, feels alienated and persecuted...
Your little boy needs you to protect him from Dad's moods, anger, and inability to cope. I wouldn't schedule any visits right now. Dad is likely to tell child that he's moving out, mean mommy is making him go...all that quacking that adults can tune out, but children have no defenses against.
I say, get H out with minimum of fuss, tend to child, and in a few weeks, sort out issues with AH.
In other words, put AH and his issues and his DRAMA on the back burner while you tend to your sick little one.
(((hugs)))
By email or through his parents, can you find out what A needs and have it taken to him.
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