He hasn't drank this week.
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I often catch myself future tripping, it's a tough habit to break. It's not really cheaper from a CS perspective and requires more of a parenting commitment that he probably makes right now.
Is he a 50/50 parent right now?
Is he a 50/50 parent right now?
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CS paid to me would be cheaper for him at 50-50 because of the formula which makes the payment smaller based on a certain number of nights spent with the CS-paying parent.
I think people sometimes confuse joint custody with a 50/50 physical residence thing, which isn't always the case.
In my first divorce, which my oldest daughter is the result of that marriage, I had primary physical custody, but also joint custody in that we played equal parts in important decisions such as medical care, and split the costs.
The courts established visitation, which meant every other weekend to his house, 5 weeks total in the summer, and we alternated holidays every year.
In my first divorce, which my oldest daughter is the result of that marriage, I had primary physical custody, but also joint custody in that we played equal parts in important decisions such as medical care, and split the costs.
The courts established visitation, which meant every other weekend to his house, 5 weeks total in the summer, and we alternated holidays every year.
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By then he had remarried and started a new family, so visitation wasn't nearly as frequent. That was hard for me because I knew it hurt my daughter.
We only lived about 6 blocks from each other after the divorce, so she was often there more than what visitation specified. He was pretty flexible on her spending time with him because he worked a swing shift (12 hour days, 3 days one week, 4 the next).
He was always good about paying support too, but then he's not an alcoholic or addict.
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If he's not doing 50/50 now then he can't do it later. He's bluffing.
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